There is so much in life we have little or no control over. You can’t control the weather or the sun rising or setting but the good news is there are many other things that you absolutely CAN control. Here are some of them:
1) Let Go of Expectations
Let go of the notion that you can change another person, their actions or non-actions. Your moral compass may not be the same as someone else’s. When you let go of the expectations you have of others, you can have more control of your own life. It opens up your mind to focus on your own life and more time to focus on what truly matters to YOU. When you let go of the expectations you have of others, you will no longer allow anyone to yank your chain causing knee-jerk reaction fraught with havoc, frustration and anxiety.
2) Know the Difference Between Self-Confidence and Controlling.
Confidence means that you believe in your ability to set consistent limits, priorities and realistic expectations for yourself and others. To control means that you wish to manage the actions of others and/or the outcome of things around you. Remember, the only person you have any control over is YOU. As your confidence level grows, it will enable you to let go of outcomes of things that you have no control over in life.
3) Coach people how you want to be treated
A crucial step in having more control over your life is the ability to teach others how you wish to be treated. You don’t have any control over others’ actions; however, you do have control over how you “allow” others to treat you. If you find yourself constantly stressed by the things you allow other people to bring into your life, you may want to begin asking yourself, “is it worth having these people or things in my life any longer?” Make yourself a priority and you will find that others will treat you with the respect you deserve. Remember, no one can walk over you unless you willingly lie down.
Keeping these tips in mind will ensure that you stay focused and in control of you!
Gladys Anderson, founder of Coach for YOUR Dreams, is a certified life coach, licensed marriage and family therapist, writer and speaker. Gladys combines years of experience, training and a genuine commitment to helping nurses, teachers, therapists and other care giving women to set limits so they have more time, and energy to devote to self-care.