7 Stress Busting Tips for the Holidays

Holidays are filled with joyous times spend with family and loved ones but can often be stressful as well. Some studies indicate that stress, depression and suicide are highest during the holiday season.  To reduce stress, overwhelm and possible depression, consider some of these stress busting tips for the holidays, practice some good self care and enjoy! Start your list early.  Even if you change your mind, you have a guideline in place for gift giving and shopping.  I usually start my list early in the year as I listen to what my family and friends say are on their wish list.  Of course, the list might change by December but I've already gotten a head start and can avoid the last minute buying frenzy. Budget wisely.  Assign a … [Read more...]

Stop to Smell the Roses While In Pursuit of Happiness

Are you waiting for your situation to change so you can be happy? Many people are waiting for that illusive dream to manifest, the great idea to be implemented, the new house, car or some other tangible evidence that says they are Happy. Stop to smell the roses while in pursuit of happiness! Happiness is a state of mind based on how worthy you feel, how deserving you think you are of good things coming your way. Your internal critic (the negative messages received and embedded in your subconscious) may attempt to sabotage your happiness quotient which will in turn affect your level of self-confidence and self-esteem. Self-confidence is the realistic and positive expectations you have for yourself, your abilities and others. … [Read more...]

Take a Power Hour to Stop Overwhelm

According to the National Association of Professional Organizers, 60% of Americans feel they do not have enough time to get everything done. This past week I certainly was part of that 60%! As I unsuccessfully attempted to check off everything I had on my to-do list, I felt like I was trying to fit a square peg in a round hole! Maybe you're also overwhelmed with the sheer volume of items on your to-do list!  Or, perhaps, you underestimated the time needed, or fell prey to interruptions because you didn't set strong time boundaries. With a mountain of paperwork facing you, phone calls to make, tasks/chores to be done and all the other things you want to check off your to-do-list, you’re more than likely to procrastinate and shuffle … [Read more...]

Can You Really Eat, Pray, Love Your Way to Happiness?

I recently traveled across three countries on a delicious quest for enlightenment, purpose and passion. Actually, my journey took place from the comfortable seat in my local movie theater.  I tagged along with Julia Roberts, as Liz Gilbert, as she took me along on her search for spirituality, love and adventure in the movie, Eat, Pray, Love. It was quite a journey! Without giving away too much, the movie revolved around Liz, a woman desperately looking to find out who she really was and what she wanted in her life. I enjoyed watching this incredible woman evolve over a period of 12 months but couldn’t help but wonder, Can You Really Eat, Pray, Love Your Way To Happiness?I’m not so sure you need to traverse across three countries to find … [Read more...]

How To Lovingly Separate From Negative Influences

  I recently asked a client how he could  lovingly separate from a situation filled with conframa [confusion and drama] that was sucking up every ounce of energy he had.  He replied, …”I don't know how I can lovingly separate ... ”. My client expressed exactly what a lot of people think about when they hear the word separate. It does not mean physically abandoning a friendship, marriage or other situations that zap your energy. On occasion, we all encounter angry, obstinate, whining people who complain, gossip, criticize, zap our energy and leave us feeling drained. Lovingly separating from negative people and influences is a way to release your emotional connection to the drama, confusion, pessimism, and other unacceptable … [Read more...]

It’s Always the Time to Celebrate YOU!

Get out the candles, balloons and confetti and let’s party! It’s always the time to celebrate YOU by honoring your accomplishments! Rejoice in the things you did; the things you didn't do; and your victories - big and small. How many times have you worked hard to get a promotion, struggled and sacrificed to loose that final 10 pounds, or passed a class with flying colors only to let the accomplishment pass by with hardly a notice? Were you that busy or just didn’t think it worthy of celebration? Women are notorious for downplaying the valuable and worthwhile things we do and easily forgo the significance of rewards for a job done well. Traditionally, with the exception of Mother’s Day, women don’t commemorate accomplishments such … [Read more...]

How to Avoid Giving Up YOU While Giving to Others

Do you open your gifts with wild abandonment, ripping off the paper as fast as you can or are you like me, someone who gingerly opens gifts being extra careful not to destroy the wrapping? My friends will tell you that I savor opening gifts, delicately taking my time carefully unwrapping it, making sure I don't rip the paper and I usually save it to repurpose, particularly if it's attractively wrapped.  For my type A personality friends, who hurriedly rip open their gifts leaving behind a trail of jumbled paper, all the attention I give to unwrapping gifts must drive them nuts. But, I also enjoy carefully selecting and giving gifts as much as I enjoy receiving them. The catch-22 is that most of the time, you are more comfortable … [Read more...]

Take a Day Off – You Deserve It

Yesterday, a friend asked me what plans I had for the day.  After giving her a litany of things I had scheduled, I realized I had fallen prey to the never ending to-do-listitus (I just made that up). When I worked in corporate, I scheduled what I called "mental health days" just for me so I could replenish.  Now that I am self-employed, taking days off other than scheduled vacations is not always so easy. So the one thing I have purposely put on my  to do list is take a day off to take care of me...   On my day off,  here's  what I won't do: Turn on the computer - I don't know about you but I can spend hours on end checking and responding to emails, visiting social media sites, playing games.  You day off ought to be "A … [Read more...]

Look Within to Find Your Way Home

Do you recall the characters from the Wizard of Oz? They all thought something was missing from their lives and they just had to find the missing piece ... Dorothy dreamed of finding her way home to Kansas The Tin Man thought he would be happy if he only had a heart The Scarecrow believed he would be happy when he had a brain The Cowardly lion thought he would find happiness with some courage Just as a lot of us do, they all were looking for answers outside of themselves.  And is most often the case, all we need is already is within our reach. The characters in the Wizard of Oz thought they didn't have what they needed to be happy. In case you need a gentle reminder from your friendly wizard about what it … [Read more...]

How To Throw Light On Fears That Keep You In The Dark

Are you feeling like you are scrambling around lost in a dark tunnel without a flashlight to guide you?  Fear can make you feel that way. Don’t beat yourself up. There are a lot of women who experience that same feeling while doing and giving even more to our families, careers, and community responsibilities that we often feel overwhelmed by the sheer volume of things we have on our plates. I’ve felt that way myself from time to time while I was trying to juggle a gazillion hats, taking care of everybody but me and living a life of overwhelm, confusion and anxiety. The same kind of fear you feel when you find yourself in an unfamiliar dark place with no way to see your way out is the kind of fear that a lot of women experience … [Read more...]