Popular Self-CareTip Posts

Have you ever spent hours jumping from one web link to another trying to gather relevant information for a specific topic only to find yourself in a maze of information overload? I have and I know just how time consuming and frustrating that can be. Don’t you sometimes wish you had a handy reference guide put together with several articles about your specific search topic all in one place? Now you do… Periodically I will publish a list of previously posted popular self-care tips and strategies that I've rounded up from various sources on the web to make it easier for you to get self-care tips and more all in one place.   Here's the list: 15 Self-Care Tips for Anyone Who Works Too Much Nichole Liloia on MindBodyGreen Choose … [Read more...]

The Power of Quiet Time

Most of us don’t have quiet time. We're usually too busy to sit quietly for even a minute. We certainly don't believe we deserve a space of our own in which to go within to replenish our energy. In the book, A Room of One’s Own, Virginia Woolf refers to a woman needing a quiet space of her own to write. I doubt if Woolf could have envisioned the hectic lives most women live today. Whether we apply it to writing or other areas of our lives, Woolf’s message is still relevant. We all need some quiet time and a space to reflect and reclaim a sense of well being. Some of us manage to build quiet time into our busy days but others constantly complain about a lack of time. Most often, it’s not time we lack but rather, we regret forfeiting … [Read more...]

How Well Do I Listen?

Most of us have experienced the frustration of having someone not listen to us or felt that same frustration when someone says you're not listening to him or her.   But, before we get all bent out of shape and accuse someone of not listening, we must first ask ourselves the question, "how well do I listen"? You must learn to be a good listener if you want others to listen to you.  That means putting down the smartphone and giving the other person your undivided attention. A smartphone is no substitute for meaningful connection Listening is so much more than hearing the words that are spoken. Listening involves paying full attention to the person speaking, taking note of the tone of voice, gestures, body language and making eye … [Read more...]

Who do you think you are?

Who do you think you are is a refrain that fear whispers in my ear regularly. The only purpose for fear landing on my shoulder, whispering my ear, "who do you think you are" is to stop me dead in my tracks, so I won't take the next step toward realizing a dream or doing something that will bring me joy. You may not even realize fear has you in its clutches until you are gripped with immobility, indecisiveness and self-doubt.  By then you've put aside your dreams, your aspirations and lack the energy to move forward. In other words, you're the passenger not the pilot in your own vehicle. How do you silence "fear talk" when she whispers in your ear,  "who do you think you are"? You silence her the same as you would any other … [Read more...]

Easy Tip to Block Negativity

How can I stop negativity coming at me from other people? is a question I hear a lot.  Most of the time what is really being said is "I'm not negative, other people are"...It's much more comfortable to blame others that it is to take responsibility for our personal thoughts, actions and responses. While you certainly can't control negativity in speech or behavior from other people, keep in mind you are in control of your own thoughts, feelings, behaviors and responses.  When you start to recognize that you control what you think, your behaviors and responses to situations, people and events will shift dramatically. When a negative statement is made in your presence, first, you want to take 2-3 really deep breaths before your respond or … [Read more...]

Light my Fire

Talk about "light my fire"! I recently participated in a riveting 30-day challenge - "Reclaim Your Sass" - with awesome, Jennifer Boykin. I was faced head on with the reality of my fears, self-doubt and indecisiveness in a most gentle, caring authentic way that resonated deep within me. I usually shy away from these kinds of challenges because I get bored, think they are too hokey or require more time and energy than I'm willing to invest but something about this challenge peaked my interest. I had already started the process of probing deeply into my fears and transparency,  which I shared with you in an earlier post.  So Jennifer's challenge resonated with me in a profound way. I completed the 30-day challenge on Sunday and  this … [Read more...]

5 Audacious Agreements that Empower

Unlike written or verbal contracts we make to provide a service or product, sometimes we make agreements with ourselves and other people that we are not even aware we made. And, when our expectations fall short of our desired outcome, we become angry, disillusioned, frustrated and confused. For example, you may live with an unspoken agreement that conflict is to be avoided at all cost by not speaking up when there is a disagreement or difference of opinion. You may soon discover that avoiding conflict never gets anything resolved – just shoved under the proverbial rug. Instead of going with the flow and operating from agreements that limit, define and get in the way of being your true self, here are 5 audacious agreements that empower … [Read more...]

Show More Generosity on Valentine’s Day

Valentine’s Day is most often thought of as a time to show your love and affection to the people closest to you by bestowing them with flowers, chocolates, romantic dinners, notes and cards. I recently discovered this excerpt from a blog post about another unique way to celebrate Valentine’s Day: Barely three days before Valentine’s Day last year, Sasha Dichter, Chief Innovation Officer for Acumen Fund, decided to convert his month-long “Generosity Experiment” into a global Generosity Day. The idea was simple: to reclaim Valentine’s Day from the clutches of commercialization and turn it into a day of “sharing love with everyone.” I had never heard of this idea before but I think it’s a novel answer to the over … [Read more...]

Holiday Gift Giving Ideas

This is the time we seriously start thinking about holiday gift giving. If you're like me, you look for economical, practical and meaningful gifts for your family and friends. And with the gift giving season fast approaching, you too might be looking for gift giving ideas like the ones here. Most of these ideas are affordable and can be ordered on line or purchased locally.  Ordering on line from reputable companies can save you tons of time and can be easy on your wallet. When you are planning your holiday shopping, consider some of these inexpensive holiday gift giving ideas: A gel pen for writing notes and cards. Everybody loses a pen once in a while and for those of us who write a lot, an extra pen is always appreciated. … [Read more...]

10 Inspirational Tips to Give Yourself a Boost

  Most of us can use a little push, from time to time, to help us shift our mood and lift our spirits when we're bored, drained, and sluggish. While your energy level might be low and you feel unmotivated, you don't have to stay that way! Here are some easy tips you can follow  to give yourself a boost to inspire, encourage and rejuvenate your mind, body and spirit: Start a gratitude journal. Write down 5 things you are grateful for each day.  Showing appreciation for the things you already have keeps you from dwelling on lack and scarcity. Try out a new hairdo – nothing perks you up like a new “do" to uplift your spirits Listen to some up-tempo music – this is not the time for ballads and blues – you want … [Read more...]