Master the Art of Preparation

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I was reminded of the concept of preparation recently when my husband, who is a chef, received his association magazine, Mise en Place (a French phrase for "put in place"). In the chef's world, the term means to organize the necessary tools and ingredients for the evening meal. When you master the art of preparation, you are not just focused on the details, outcome and possibilities.  While these things are important, preparation means that you have armed yourself with not only the necessary tools, resources and knowledge to get the job done but you are also prepared mentally and physically. Most of us think of preparation as the steps we take to get ready for an event or undertaking such as preparing for a party. We are usually well … [Read more...]

5 Ways You Can Live the Life You Deserve

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You're entitled to live the life you deserve unencumbered by the perceptions others have of you.  "What others think of you is none of your business," says Byron Katie, best selling author of the book, Loving What is. If only we could embrace that truth, our lives would be filled with less drama and confusion. Recently I spoke to someone who had formed a flawed perception of who I really am based on misinformation, opinions of others and experiences that had nothing to do with me. If you’ve ever been on the receiving end that kind of behavior, you know exactly what it’s like. I haven’t always been able or willing to decode others’ perceptions or understand how they feel about themselves is a direct reflection of their interaction … [Read more...]

Show Kindness to Yourself

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Show kindness to yourself even when you make a mistake, decision you regret or choices and experiences have you stuck, unmotivated and angry. We all make mistakes. If a friend made a mistake or choice that landed her in a shaky situation, how would you respond to her? More than likely you would be there to support, encourage and uplift her. So, why not extend the same courtesies and show kindness to yourself when you've made a choice that didn't turn out the way you expected? When you are beating yourself up with negative self talk, stop and use the following tips to show kindness to yourself: 1. Show kindness to yourself in the same way you would a friend who might be going through a rough patch. Speak encouraging, … [Read more...]

Escape the Responsibility Trap

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Are you feeling confused, trapped and overwhelmed by the seemingly endless "responsibility trap" that zaps your time and energy? Have you ever found yourself saying? "I don't have time for me" "I have to take care of everything or it won't get done" "I feel guilty when I say "no" "Something or someone always gets in the way of me taking time for myself" If you've said or thought any of the above, you are not alone! Our lives become unmanageable when we don’t you fully understand the differences between responsibility and choice. Responsibility means you have some control or authority over a situation or another person. Choice means you have options and the right to make decisions based on what you … [Read more...]

Doing Ordinary Things Extraordinarily

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When you think of greatness, who comes to mind - Martin Luther King, Mother Teresa, Joan of Arc, Oprah, Muhammad Ali, Bobby Fischer, Deepak Chopra? Guess what, none of these people are any different that you or me. They didn't just wake up one day and decide to be great. At one point, they all were everyday, ordinary people who ended up doing extraordinary things. And they followed the calling they had to bring their gifts to the world. Greatness is not about becoming famous, powerful or rich. It's not about having millions of dollars. It's not about banner headlines. It is about making a difference in someone else's life. It is about recognizing difficulties and moving past them. It is about finding your purpose in life, being … [Read more...]

10 Inspirational Tips to Give Yourself a Boost

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  Most of us can use a little push, from time to time, to help us shift our mood and lift our spirits when we're bored, drained, and sluggish. While your energy level might be low and you feel unmotivated, you don't have to stay that way! Here are some easy tips you can follow  to give yourself a boost to inspire, encourage and rejuvenate your mind, body and spirit: Start a gratitude journal. Write down 5 things you are grateful for each day.  Showing appreciation for the things you already have keeps you from dwelling on lack and scarcity. Try out a new hairdo – nothing perks you up like a new “do" to uplift your spirits Listen to some up-tempo music – this is not the time for ballads and blues – you want … [Read more...]

I’ve Never Been to ME

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When you think of a relationship do you think of the connection you have with your family, friends, money, co-workers and neighbors? Of course you do. But wait, don't you also want to think about the loving healthy relationship you have with yourself? You do have a healthy, loving relationship with yourself, don't you? Or what about the relationship you have with money, your emotional well being, your integrity and your values? One of my favorite songs is "I've Never Been to Me" by Nancy Wilson. In the song, she sings about meeting kings, queens and all the dreams she's deferred but never been free to be herself. At least that's my take on the song. A lot of people have the trappings of what society tells us is a successful … [Read more...]

What Are You Running From?

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Some of us run to compete in marathons, some of us run fast to keep up with the latest gadgets and newest social phenomena. Others run fast to get away from a ferocious bull whose chief goal is to thrust his sharp horns into your back. I recently came across an article about the dangerous, and for some, exhilarating sport of running with bulls. While some consider it a sport, animal rights activists call it cruel and dangerous.  Still, bull runs attract thousands of participants and spectators every year. Every year since the 13th century during the San Fermin Festival, in Palmona, Spain, thousands of veterans and tourists flock to the annual running of the bulls. Although, it seems to me the people running are trying their best to … [Read more...]

Loosen Your Grip on Time

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Time is a precious commodity just like gold or diamonds.  But, we don't always value our time the same as we do for something we can reach out and touch.  We say, we waste time, kill time, make time and hold onto time.  And, we think time flies as fast as a 747.  We never seem to have enough of it or we have too much. Yet, we are all given the same gift of 24 of hours or 1440 minutes in a 24-hour period. So, how are you using this valuable gift? I started to think about how I spend my time recently when one of my subscribers said, "I have to loosen my grip on my time". I wasn't quite sure what she meant by that so I asked. This is part of the answer she gave me: "We must loosen our grip on our time and minds by letting go of … [Read more...]

Personal Boundary Success Tips

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Your relationships are mirror images of the view you have of yourself and are a direct reflection of the relationships you have in your life.  You are an integral part of any relationship and the role you play is crucial as to whether or not your relationships are successful, healthy, thriving or unhealthy and withering. Without relationships in your life, you would not know what upsets you, what excites you, when to make a choice that’s in your best interest or what things trigger an automatic negative or positive response in you. That’s why it’s important to set strong boundaries around what you will do, accept, and give. “Without a strong concept of your boundaries, you can easily react and respond in ways that don’t honor the person … [Read more...]