How to Deal With Disappointment – Learn From It

Just about the time I started the draft for my book, developing a new product and feeling pretty good about the way things were shaping up, out of the blue a zinger hit me! Things just didn't turn out the way I had planned. I was disappointed and my confidence level plummeted. I could have easily taken refuge under the covers, never to emerge again from my self-imposed exile into inertia. And, literally, I did retreat to the safety of my bed for a while.  I was unmotivated and ready to throw in the towel. One day as I sat at my desk mindlessly shuffling a stack of papers, I was lifted out of my fog by one of my favorite vocalists, Diana Krall, belting out "Pick Yourself Up and Start All Over Again" on the radio: Nothings impossible I … [Read more...]

Risk Taking Can Be the Spark That Gets You Moving

When you think of risk, what comes to mind? Do you have visions of Evil Knievel leaping across Snake River Canyon, someone engaged in hazardous, intense, and foolish actions or do you think of risk taking as an exhilarating, breathtaking and awe-inspiring experience? Of course, risk can be all those things and more. But it's really about having the courage to make a decision to experience life fully without fear and limitations.  It can also mean that sometimes you just have to take advantage of  that once in a lifetime opportunity without limiting yourself by fear. I took that once in a lifetime opportunity when I signed up for the sea trek excursion while on a recent cruise. If you're not familiar with a sea trek, it's an … [Read more...]

It’s Time to De-clutter and Spruce Up Your Life

Finally, I can see the grass peeking out from under the mounds of snow that accumulated this winter. It's hard to believe but Spring is just around the corner. You know what that means... It's time to de-clutter and spruce up your life. photo credit: MarkWallaceimage And, I don't just mean your physical surroundings. It doesn't matter  what you're holding onto past its prime (a relationship gone sour, faded out theater tickets, an assortment of playbills or the jeans that are two sizes too small), it's time to do a major overhaul - starting from the inside out. I collect shoes like most people collect antiques or model cars.  Yes, I can identify with Imelda Marcus, the ultimate shoe collector. Although I don't have nearly … [Read more...]

What You’re Looking For is Right There in Front of You

[ Have you ever misplaced something in your house and found it was right there in front of you all the time? How annoying is that? This morning I opened the door to get the morning paper and immediately realized I didn't have on my glasses.  While I won't look across the room and mistake you for a creature from outer space, I do need glasses to read. But, I'm constantly misplacing them. This morning was one of those times. If you've ever played the game hide and seek, you can identify with my frustration when I can't locate my glasses. Hide and seek is a fun game children play. In the game, one person is designated as it; and is charged with finding the hiders. First, someone is picked to be it, then he/she turns around and … [Read more...]

Put Multitasking on Hold

Lately, I've been thinking a lot about how I can put multitasking on hold mostly when I'm on a call and another is waiting or I glance at my computer screen and see I am working in several windows simultaneously. Multitasking can easily become a big part of our lives especially now with the busy holiday season fast approaching.  And, all of this multitasking starts to make me feel like I'm on an out of control roller coaster wishing someone would put on the brakes.  Like most women, I find myself occasionally deep in the throes of multitasking and busyness. But, when I can slow down long enough to allow myself some breathing space, I realize that in addition to all the appointments, household chores, social commitments, and other demands … [Read more...]

Do You Make These Deadly Mistakes When Carving Out Time for Self-Care?

I know how difficult it is to carve out space for self-care when you are inundated with the ironing, cooking, cleaning and trying to balance your personal and professional life. It  may seem like all the demands made on you are draining you of precious energy and you're so tired you could sleep for a week,  yet you might not sleep well even if you have time. It's hard to believe,  but we are just a few weeks away from the busy holiday season. The struggle for self-care will be even more evident when we take on the added stress of shopping for gifts, entertaining and trying to fit self-care into our busy schedules. Do you make these deadly mistakes when carving out time for self care? Saying "yes" when you really want to say … [Read more...]

Bad News is a Bummer

Bad news is a bummer. It matters little if the news is life changing or a disappointing outcome; it can easily be a shock or a setback. Last week, my day started out as usual until I got a phone call from a relative with some pretty disturbing news that changed my whole outlook. When things like that happen, do you resort to hand wringing, crying, questioning "why", what if", and "if only”? I must admit, for a short while I was stuck in worry mode. After taking some really deep breaths to get centered, I focused on what I could realistically do about the situation. This is what I came up with to bounce back from worry: Be Realistic - Is there anything you can do to realistically change the situation? If you can change the … [Read more...]

When Good Enough is Enough

The concept of good enough comes from the psychiatrist and psychoanalyst, John Bowlby's theory about "good enough parenting".  The premise is that children can and do thrive with parental substitutes (relatives, adoptive parents, etc) and that this mothering is good enough even when the child was deprived of a connection with his birth mother. As I thought about this theory, I couldn't help but wonder how we strive for perfection and don't accept when good enough is enough. Most of us have been programmed for perfection. We are taught early to avoid what is considered failure at all cost. In our schools, we learn a to strive for an 'A" or a perfect score and anything less is considered a failure. What about those students who get a … [Read more...]

Self-Care Can Sneak Its Way Into Your Daily Routine

 Self-care can sneak its way into your daily routine even when you’re so exhausted you hardly have enough energy to crawl out of bed. But, if you don’t make space daily for self-care you end up often feeling irritable, anxious, depressed or bored.  And all of that negative energy further depletes you and pushes self-care even farther into the background. According to Dr. Christiane Northrup, a women’s health expert, the key to self-care is knowing in your heart that the best way you can care for others is by caring for yourself.  It’s not selfish or to take care of yourself first.  By doing so, you are assured that you have enough energy to take care of the other people in your life. Here are some easy ways you can let self care … [Read more...]

Who Else Wants to End 2010 With a Bang?

Summer has hardly settled into Autumn and already  I’m starting to see Holiday advertisements long before I’m ready to even think about shopping, cooking, entertaining and decorating.  Maybe it’s just me, but everything seems rushed and the weeks just seem to fly by. I still have a lot to accomplish before year end and maybe you do too.  And no matter how much  you plan and organize, you are still adding to your to-do-list. I don’t know about you but with a little over than 3 months left in 2010, I have many miles to go before I sleep! So, who else wants to end 2010 with a bang? I sure do. And, here are some tips to give you a head start to end 2010 with a bang: Review your goals - Review the things you want to … [Read more...]