Loosen Your Grip on Time

Time is a precious commodity just like gold or diamonds.  But, we don't always value our time the same as we do for something we can reach out and touch.  We say, we waste time, kill time, make time and hold onto time.  And, we think time flies as fast as a 747.  We never seem to have enough of it or we have too much. Yet, we are all given the same gift of 24 of hours or 1440 minutes in a 24-hour period. So, how are you using this valuable gift? I started to think about how I spend my time recently when one of my subscribers said, "I have to loosen my grip on my time". I wasn't quite sure what she meant by that so I asked. This is part of the answer she gave me: "We must loosen our grip on our time and minds by letting go of … [Read more...]

Personal Boundary Success Tips

Your relationships are mirror images of the view you have of yourself and are a direct reflection of the relationships you have in your life.  You are an integral part of any relationship and the role you play is crucial as to whether or not your relationships are successful, healthy, thriving or unhealthy and withering. Without relationships in your life, you would not know what upsets you, what excites you, when to make a choice that’s in your best interest or what things trigger an automatic negative or positive response in you. That’s why it’s important to set strong boundaries around what you will do, accept, and give. “Without a strong concept of your boundaries, you can easily react and respond in ways that don’t honor the person … [Read more...]

Step Out Boldly with Confidence, Courage and Clarity

You can easily learn to live with confidence, courage and clarity by simply putting into practice some new ways of thinking about the messages you've internalized that prevent you from living life to the fullest. Imagine constantly hearing the message, "children should be seen and not heard"?  That's a message that shuts down creativity, self-expression and pushes your confidence level down deeper than a ship sunken at the bottom of the ocean. I certainly heard that along with a lot of other limiting messages.  But, the good news is I no longer carry the burden of limitation, doubt and fear. And, you don't have to either. You may not have experienced such a shut down as this but many people have. And that ultimately leads to a … [Read more...]

How to Build Resilient Relationships

The most important relationship you'll ever have is the one you have with yourself. Relationships with partners, family, friends and colleagues all hinge on the one you develop with yourself. When your inner relationship suffers, all other connections fall short of being as effective as they could be. For example: Feeling undeserving will prevent you from experiencing the joy and happiness you are worthy of. Fearfulness keeps you stuck and connected to people and behaviors that create negativity and doubt into your life. You may allow others to make decisions for you based on a faulty belief that your ideas and thoughts will be rejected. A strong foundation of confidence and self-worth are the building blocks to … [Read more...]

What’s in Your Self-Care Toolbox?

What's in your self-care toolbox? Just as you have physical tools to complete tasks and projects, you also use tools that help you maintain your self-care. You probably have a computer, smartphone, e-reader or other tool that you use to stay organized, focused, entertained and on track.  These are the same tools that once were considered faddish, sophisticated or out of reach for the average user. Yet, most of us can't imagine our lives without our cell phones, electronic calendars, music players and game consoles. Can you recall what it was like to connect with your long distance family and friends or even conduct business before we had Skype, Facebook, e-mail, or webcams?  These are the tools that are so ingrained in our everyday … [Read more...]

How Much “Stuff” Do I Really Need?

I’m sure, like me, you’ve asked yourself many times, "how much stuff do I really need" or said, "I have way too much stuff" or "I need to get rid of some of this clutter". Every year my town offers a shredding day where old papers, checks, junk mail and other useless papers are recycled into a large travelling truck. And each year as I round up all these worthless pieces of paper for the shredder truck, I can’t help but wonder how I manage to accumulate so much stuff. Maybe, you are organized and don't accumulate clutter. If so, congratulations! But most of us find ourselves with more "stuff" than we know what to do with. Even though there are times when I can proudly say I’ve streamline my stuff and got rid things I no longer find … [Read more...]

Create More Space to Attract Opportunities of Abundance

We all say we want more…money, time, balance, happiness, joy, clothes, electronic gadgets, etc. And, the list goes on… But, have you made space in your life for more of what you say you want? When a container is full, you can't expect to add more to it without it overflowing. Have you made room to attract the abundance you say you want? How much do you really need? Is your closet overstuffed with clothes that are outdated, too small no longer of interest to you? Then, you have not created space for anything new. Imagine your clothes and shoes orderly and ready to wear with space to spare. You have just created an opportunity to attract more clothes. Where are you spending your time? We all have the same 24 hours in a … [Read more...]

How to Become More Patient With Yourself, Friends and Family

"Nothing gives one person so much advantage over another as to remain cool and unruffled under all circumstances" - Thomas Jefferson Sometimes it's hard to be patient when the person ahead of you is holding up the line digging through her purse to find her debit card (as if she didn't know she was going to make a purchase). Or, maybe you need to quickly complete a task and the hourglass on your computer won't go away. If you're anything like me, you can quickly become annoyed when delays cause inconvenience or eat away at your time.  And, it's usually because you are either rushing or have set some unrealistic expectations for yourself or someone else. Wanting things done in a reasonable time frame, being organized and proactive … [Read more...]

Your Boundary is Your Invisible Self-Monitoring Tool

There are a variety of tools available to keep you on track such as budgets, time management, journals and vision boards. And, like the other tools you avail yourself of to stay on track and reach your goals, you can also use your invisible self-monitoring tool to create strong boundaries that protect you from time stealers, energy drainers and negativity. I’m sure you wouldn’t allow guests in your home to trample on your furniture, paint on your walls or deface your property in some other way. Yet, many times, we unwittingly invite people to disrespect our boundaries by leaving a trail of negativity in their wake. For example: The “friend” who does not listen to you or value your opinions People who infringe on your time … [Read more...]

A Vision Board to Create the Life You Want

If you're anything like me, the book, "The Secret" gave me my first glimpse of a vision board.  And, like a lot of people, I thought if I cut out some pictures and quotes from magazines, put them up where I could see them everyday then magically I would attract what I wanted. Wrong! Your vision board is much more than just a hodge podge collection of images.  It's an easy to use tool that helps you manifest your deepest desires.  You simply collect vivid images, inspiring quotes and positive affirmations. You then place them on a poster board where you can see them everyday.  But what's most overlooked and a vital part of creating your vision is the "feelings" you attach to the images. For example, you may be holding a vision for a … [Read more...]