I’ve Never Been to ME

money, wealth, friiends, family, health, career

When you think of a relationship do you think of the connection you have with your family, friends, money, co-workers and neighbors? Of course you do. But wait, don't you also want to think about the loving healthy relationship you have with yourself? You do have a healthy, loving relationship with yourself, don't you? Or what about the relationship you have with money, your emotional well being, your integrity and your values? One of my favorite songs is "I've Never Been to Me" by Nancy Wilson. In the song, she sings about meeting kings, queens and all the dreams she's deferred but never been free to be herself. At least that's my take on the song. A lot of people have the trappings of what society tells us is a successful … [Read more...]

Happiness Really is an Inside Job

Happiness really is an inside job.  A sure blueprint for unhappiness is when you say and do things that are unaligned with your integrity, beliefs and desires.  If your thinking is not in line with what you are doing and saying, you will experience conflict, anger and frustration. I often come across women who say they are not happy. They are unhappy because they are living out of integrity - doing and saying things that conflict with their beliefs, desires and expectations. One of my clients complained that she was "just unhappy" and didn't like saying "no" to family members and friends and often wound up feeling that her time and wishes were ignored. As we worked together, we uncovered why she wasn't happy in her personal life. She … [Read more...]

Can Money Buy Happiness?

Money & Happiness

I once had a cute little refrigerator magnet that said, “money can’t buy happiness but it can buy a week in the Bahamas”. Your level of happiness is never determined by your purchasing power.  Of course, having access to enough money to be comfortable is preferable to living in poverty but it does not insure your happiness. The Boston Globe ran an interesting article some time ago drawing from research into that time worn question: Can money buy happiness?  The study found that "there's a certain point beyond  which people have enough to comfortably feed, clothe, and house themselves, having more money - even a lot more money - makes them only a little bit happier". These days money is a hot topic  – how much you have, will you … [Read more...]

Stop to Smell the Roses While In Pursuit of Happiness

Are you waiting for your situation to change so you can be happy? Many people are waiting for that illusive dream to manifest, the great idea to be implemented, the new house, car or some other tangible evidence that says they are Happy. Stop to smell the roses while in pursuit of happiness! Happiness is a state of mind based on how worthy you feel, how deserving you think you are of good things coming your way. Your internal critic (the negative messages received and embedded in your subconscious) may attempt to sabotage your happiness quotient which will in turn affect your level of self-confidence and self-esteem. Self-confidence is the realistic and positive expectations you have for yourself, your abilities and others. … [Read more...]

Can You Really Eat, Pray, Love Your Way to Happiness?

I recently traveled across three countries on a delicious quest for enlightenment, purpose and passion. Actually, my journey took place from the comfortable seat in my local movie theater.  I tagged along with Julia Roberts, as Liz Gilbert, as she took me along on her search for spirituality, love and adventure in the movie, Eat, Pray, Love. It was quite a journey! Without giving away too much, the movie revolved around Liz, a woman desperately looking to find out who she really was and what she wanted in her life. I enjoyed watching this incredible woman evolve over a period of 12 months but couldn’t help but wonder, Can You Really Eat, Pray, Love Your Way To Happiness?I’m not so sure you need to traverse across three countries to find … [Read more...]

Don’t just look, stop and stare!

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================================================================= This is a guest post by Logan Lindabury, the Happiness Coach, from HappinessCanHelp.com ================================================================= Picture this: You've just finished working another long and tiring day.You get in your car and find excitement in the idea that tomorrow will be the weekend and you can actually relax. Then you realize it's only Monday and you have yet to begin sitting in rush hour traffic. Has this happened to you? Why is it that you can only relax and be happy on the weekends? When did that get set in stone? Far as I can see, it's not! So break the routine. Try something new. Find some happiness everyday, no matter what … [Read more...]

In Pursuit of Happiness

Happy people

  Happiness is when what you think, what you say, and what you do are in harmony - Gandhi Most people expend a great amount of time looking for happiness in all the wrong places . They chase dreams rather than live dreams. Their lives are stimulated only by addictions, religions, and even other people in a futile attempt to fill the void with purpose and meaning. The irony is the only place they ever needed to search was within. Happiness is a state of mind based on how worthy you feel. How you feel about yourself is a direct result of the accumulated experiences you have had, particular growing up.  For instance, if you grew up being made to feel worthy, valued, loved, protected and respected, most likely you feel … [Read more...]