In Pursuit of Happiness

  Happiness is when what you think, what you say, and what you do are in harmony - Gandhi Most people expend a great amount of time looking for happiness in all the wrong places . They chase dreams rather than live dreams. Their lives are stimulated only by addictions, religions, and even other people in a futile attempt to fill the void with purpose and meaning. The irony is the only place they ever needed to search was within. Happiness is a state of mind based on how worthy you feel. How you feel about yourself is a direct result of the accumulated experiences you have had, particular growing up.  For instance, if you grew up being made to feel worthy, valued, loved, protected and respected, most likely you feel … [Read more...]

TIP: How to Build a Strong Emotional Boundary

How does your outer world reflect your inner world? Are you constantly misplacing your keys, spending time looking for things, never having enough time, surrounded by chaos and negativity? When you outer world is disorganized, so is your inner world and it reflects a lack of focus and clarity. TIP: Change the way you think about things.  Replace negative, limiting, self-sabotaging thoughts with positive thoughts and affirmations.  Immediately turn each negative or limiting thought into a positive statement before it has time to infiltrate your subconscious. If you have enjoyed this tip, please submit your comments below and click the share button to share it with your … [Read more...]

TIP: How to Create a Strong Financial Boundary

A major stress for many people in these challenging economic times is money.  How do you view money?  Do you have an easy come easy go attitude, are you a thrifty spender or are you burdened with debt? Whatever your view of money is, the following tip may be helpful to get or keep your finances in order. TIP: Spending more than one earns is a recipe for accumulating massive debt.  Create a budget and stick to it.  Track your spending for a month so that you know where your money is going.  You may be surprised at how much you spend on coffee, snacks and non-essentials. If you are in the habit of saving a portion of your income, congratulations and keep up the good work. Eliminate credit cards - Create a short and long term plan to … [Read more...]

TIP: How to Simplify and Systematize Your Space Boundary

TIP:  De-clutter your surroundings by getting rid of clogged files, clothes you no longer can wear, old costume jewelry, and other things that you no longer find useful, enjoyable or serve to enhance your life. Create a system for everything; organize files and folders – You can create folders and rules in your e-mail so that you can easily find key contacts and their emails. Donate clothes to a worthwhile charity. Getting rid of clutter creates space to receive more of what you really want in your life. About the Author: Gladys M. Anderson is a certified group coach, personal life coach and a licensed marriage & family therapist.  Gladys helps nurses, therapists, teachers and other caregivers establish boundaries,  … [Read more...]

How Adding Chocolate Making to Your Busy Schedule Leads to Stress

Normally I don't read the Martha Steward column because she gives far more complicated instructions than I have the time or desire to undertake. Today was an exception, since anything with the word chocolate in it immediately catches my attention. The title, Chocolate Covered Strawberries, was clearly calling my name. I looked at the title and immediately had a vision of special "me" time, curled up in front of a fire, jazz playing softly in the background, browsing through my newest magazine and delighting in mouth watering chocolate covered strawberries. As I read the instructions, I couldn't help but think that Martha was now beginning to write recipes for the average, busy, chaos-filled life of the women of America like me.  So … [Read more...]

What I learned About Boundaries From Larry, the Cable Guy

  Yesterday evening I picked up my phone poised to dial out and there was dead silence…no dial tone, no static…nothing… My first thought was I had inadvertently disconnected one of the many tangled cords underneath my desk. If you’ve ever had to crawl around into the abyss under your desk on your hands and knees, you know this is no small feat. With flashlight in hand, I checked each of the sundry connections making sure they were all housed in their respective homes.  From my non-techy vantage point, everything looked to be in order. Time to place a call to the provider of my phone service, which is also my cable company. With cell phone in had, I make the call.  Little did I know this was just the beginning of my saga … [Read more...]

What Happens to Your Body When You’re Stressed – Part 1

Have you heard the phrase, "stress is a killer".  Surely, that phrase should be a wake up call to get a handle on stress. But, unfortunately, most of us wear stress like a comfortable pair of old shoes. According to the American Academy of Family Physicians, two-thirds of office visits to family doctors are for stress-related symptoms such as fatigue, body aches, obesity and heart palpitations. These are stressful times for all of us and coupled with our day-to-day stressors, we can easily become affected by stressful symptoms. When you  have a gazillion things on your to-do-list, you're overwhelmed by the demands on your time, and can't take a minute just for yourself,  your body will respond to these stressors as though you are … [Read more...]

The Effects of Stress and How it Shows Up in Your Life – Part 2

I know you hear a lot about stress but unless you get a grip on stress, stress will get a grip on you and won't let go. The second article in this series is meant to give you concrete examples of how stress shows up in your life. I'm sure you have either experienced or know someone who seems prone to accidents, often gets burned while cooking,  is always tired or gets frequent colds during the winter.  It's not that you or anyone else is unlucky, unhealthy, clumsy or unfocused.  These are all early warning signs leading to stress overload. Let's take a look at the effects stress has on your body. Physical Stress - Do you often complain of a headache or wake up tired?  Here are some signs of physical stress: Frequent … [Read more...]

Expanding your comfort level

Have you ever heard the phrase “good enough”?  I want you to start using it. When you think everything has to be done a certain way or with perfection, stop and say to yourself, “it’s good enough”. Good enough doesn't mean "less than".  It also doesn't mean haphazard, lazy, or irresponsible.  Now I know that "good enough" isn't always actually good enough, especially if you're a heart surgeon or airplane mechanic.  For day-to-day living, good enough, is good enough.  Carefully thinking out the outcome you want and with a good dose of common sense and self-confidence, you will be able to see that your best really is good enough and nothing more is needed to make it better. This concept of “good enough” is going to be difficult for … [Read more...]

Spinning Wheels Get you Nowhere Fast

Chugging along continuously, feeling just like a hamster on a wheel – spinning, spinning but going nowhere fast. That's how a lot of women feel. I often hear women say, "there's just not enough hours in the day", "where did the time go", "it seems the more I do, the less I get done" and my favorite, "I just need more time to get everything done". Have you ever found yourself saying any of these things? How do you slow down the spinning wheels of your life? Most women place time high on the priority list of what they want. The reality is we all have the same 1440 minutes or 24 hours in a day. It's more about how you use the time you do have versus the amount of time available. When you believe you must handle everything yourself or … [Read more...]