What picture are you painting?

What picture are you painting in your mind about yourself? Anytime we paint a picture in our mind that’s not authentic or represent who we really are, it leaves an indelible imprint.  It's an image that we constantly try to emulate, assimilate and redefine based on someone else’s picture. Recently I attended a paint party.  Paint parties are popping up all over the United States.  They are sometimes held in restaurants, bars and private homes.  Wherever they are held, the atmosphere is jovial and there is always plenty to eat and drink.  The whole idea of a paint party is to have fun while a professional artist guides novices (like me) in creating our own unique work of art. Like anything we try that’s new, I was apprehensive and … [Read more...]

Who do you think you are?

Who do you think you are is a refrain that fear whispers in my ear regularly. The only purpose for fear landing on my shoulder, whispering my ear, "who do you think you are" is to stop me dead in my tracks, so I won't take the next step toward realizing a dream or doing something that will bring me joy. You may not even realize fear has you in its clutches until you are gripped with immobility, indecisiveness and self-doubt.  By then you've put aside your dreams, your aspirations and lack the energy to move forward. In other words, you're the passenger not the pilot in your own vehicle. How do you silence "fear talk" when she whispers in your ear,  "who do you think you are"? You silence her the same as you would any other … [Read more...]

Light my Fire

Talk about "light my fire"! I recently participated in a riveting 30-day challenge - "Reclaim Your Sass" - with awesome, Jennifer Boykin. I was faced head on with the reality of my fears, self-doubt and indecisiveness in a most gentle, caring authentic way that resonated deep within me. I usually shy away from these kinds of challenges because I get bored, think they are too hokey or require more time and energy than I'm willing to invest but something about this challenge peaked my interest. I had already started the process of probing deeply into my fears and transparency,  which I shared with you in an earlier post.  So Jennifer's challenge resonated with me in a profound way. I completed the 30-day challenge on Sunday and  this … [Read more...]

Fear Bites the Dust [Video]

Fear is a tricky subject for me because there are so many other words that I use to disguise fear. I sometimes substitute the word procrastination for fear or tell myself things like "I'm waiting for the 'right' time, place or circumstance" before I make my move. Not true. Most of the time, when I make excuses for not doing something, It's really that I'm fearful of the outcome. That's the kind of fear that ultimately immobilizes me to the point of getting in my own way and giving up. In my  last post,  I'm Back from My Fear Trip,   I shared with you one of my fears.  For the next few weeks, 'll be sharing more on the subject of fear and transparency. In this short video,  I show you how another fear bites the dust.  Please … [Read more...]

I’m Back From My Fear Trip

I'm Back From My Fear Trip! You're probably wondering what's a "fear trip"? A fear trip is one of those trips that mires you in inertia, keeps you from moving forward and creates an atmosphere of doubt and deception.  It's like being stuck in your own personal time warp and you have the key but can't open the lock. A funny thing about fear – you can go along thinking you’ve conquered it and bam! It rears its ugly head when you least expect it. I thought I was long over the fear of sharing my writing or speaking in a public forum. So, what happened? I won’t bore you with all the details but family, illnesses, “anything that gets-in-the-way-of-writing mishaps” and other related incidents kept me off course for months. In … [Read more...]

How to Conquer Fear Tip #2

  Has fear got you stuck in unfulfilled careers, relationships, or other situations that don't honor you? Fear is just an unpleasant feeling of risk or danger, either real or imagined. It serves as a motivation to escape or retreat not as a means to hold us back from doing things that we could enjoy and achieve. Often, we do a lot of things that will comfort us to avoid the feeling of fear. For example, if you have a fear of flying, you most likely will seek other modes of transportation. I can recall the time fear had me in its grip.  As an adult, I wanted to learn to swim. So, I took the bold step to sign up for swimming classes. As soon as it was time to step off into the deep end of the pool, I froze!  My knees … [Read more...]

Let go of Ego to Reveal the Real You

  "Ego is simply an idea of who you are that you carry around with you." ~Wayne Dyer~ The Latin word for “I” is Ego and often used in English to mean "self", "the self", "self-concept", "false self", "conceptual identity", or identification with individual existence or your soul. Ego is also defined as the part of you that is your “innermost self”, “self-esteem” or “the opinion one has of him/her self.  These opinions can create a disparity between the real you and what you have been taught to believe about yourself. Your ego feeds your desire to be accepted, acknowledged, loved, and valued born out of your connections with others – society, family and culture. While connections with others is important, it is equally important … [Read more...]

Tap Into Your Inner Wizard to Overcome Fear and Doubt

You might wish you had enough courage live authentically, write a best selling novel or live with purpose and authority. You might long for loving, fulfilling relationships with your partner, family and friends.  Or you think you don't know the answers to the probing questions you have. The answers you're looking for already within you. You already have the intelligence,  courage and confidence to achieve your hearts desire. But doubt and fear have you stuck so that you can't find your way back to the happiness and success you desire. No matter what other dreams you have, being happy is a dream most people share. Yet, a lot of people are “unhappy”, given up on their dreams, constantly overwhelmed, confused and lack the strength … [Read more...]

You Are Meant to Illuminate the World with Your Light!

"Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us”, as Marianne Williamson’s writes in her famous book,  A Return to Love: Reflections on the Principles of “A Course in Miracles. Her words continue to inspire and remind me to let my light shine. We all have our own special light to shine into the world. But so often our aspirations get buried under a bushel of doubt, insecurity and fear. You are meant to illuminate the world with your light! It may be that you want to return to school to learn a new skill, change the way you react and respond to the people in your life, or it may be that you want more time and energy for self care.  Whatever vision you have for your … [Read more...]

Stop the Energy Drainers that are Painting You into a Corner

When your energy level feels like you have been in a maze with no visible means of escape and you find yourself making needless mistakes, forgetting to put the trash out, where you put keys, or missing an important appointment, it’s time to stop the energy drainers in their tracks. Feeling constantly exhausted, confused, distracted and just plain out of sorts is a formula for burnout and leads to worry, fear and despair. Yet, every day, many women experience this feeling with no relief in sight. According to a study done by the American College of Physicians, in the United States, 24% of the general adult population has had fatigue lasting 2 weeks or longer; 59%-64% of these persons report that their fatigue has no medical cause. I … [Read more...]