TIP: How to Create a Strong Financial Boundary

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A major stress for many people in these challenging economic times is money.  How do you view money?  Do you have an easy come easy go attitude, are you a thrifty spender or are you burdened with debt? Whatever your view of money is, the following tip may be helpful to get or keep your finances in order. TIP: Spending more than one earns is a recipe for accumulating massive debt.  Create a budget and stick to it.  Track your spending for a month so that you know where your money is going.  You may be surprised at how much you spend on coffee, snacks and non-essentials. If you are in the habit of saving a portion of your income, congratulations and keep up the good work. Eliminate credit cards - Create a short and long term plan to … [Read more...]

TIP: How to Simplify and Systematize Your Space Boundary

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TIP:  De-clutter your surroundings by getting rid of clogged files, clothes you no longer can wear, old costume jewelry, and other things that you no longer find useful, enjoyable or serve to enhance your life. Create a system for everything; organize files and folders – You can create folders and rules in your e-mail so that you can easily find key contacts and their emails. Donate clothes to a worthwhile charity. Getting rid of clutter creates space to receive more of what you really want in your life. About the Author: Gladys M. Anderson is a certified group coach, personal life coach and a licensed marriage & family therapist.  Gladys helps nurses, therapists, teachers and other caregivers establish boundaries,  … [Read more...]

How Adding Chocolate Making to Your Busy Schedule Leads to Stress

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Normally I don't read the Martha Steward column because she gives far more complicated instructions than I have the time or desire to undertake. Today was an exception, since anything with the word chocolate in it immediately catches my attention. The title, Chocolate Covered Strawberries, was clearly calling my name. I looked at the title and immediately had a vision of special "me" time, curled up in front of a fire, jazz playing softly in the background, browsing through my newest magazine and delighting in mouth watering chocolate covered strawberries. As I read the instructions, I couldn't help but think that Martha was now beginning to write recipes for the average, busy, chaos-filled life of the women of America like me.  So … [Read more...]

What I learned About Boundaries From Larry, the Cable Guy

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  Yesterday evening I picked up my phone poised to dial out and there was dead silence…no dial tone, no static…nothing… My first thought was I had inadvertently disconnected one of the many tangled cords underneath my desk. If you’ve ever had to crawl around into the abyss under your desk on your hands and knees, you know this is no small feat. With flashlight in hand, I checked each of the sundry connections making sure they were all housed in their respective homes.  From my non-techy vantage point, everything looked to be in order. Time to place a call to the provider of my phone service, which is also my cable company. With cell phone in had, I make the call.  Little did I know this was just the beginning of my saga … [Read more...]

Stop the People-Pleasing Syndrome Dead in its Tracks

Pleasing others is not necessarily a bad thing. Considering the needs of others, graciousness and the willingness to help others are admirable traits. For many people, the desire to please becomes a reliance on others for approval and acceptance, even when it restricts their own happiness and health. Constantly trying to gain acceptance, validation and approval is a detriment to relations, health and sabotages boundary making. "As a people-pleaser, you feel controlled by your need to please others and addicted to their approval. At the same time, you feel out of control over the pressures and demands on your life that these needs have created” writes Harriet B. Braiker, Ph.D., in The Disease to Please. Consider the following … [Read more...]