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Top 3 Things You Can Do To Set Boundaries That Give You Control of Your Life
Posted by: | Comments1) Let Go of Expectations
Let go of the notion that you can change another person, their actions or non-actions. Your moral compass may not be the same as someone else’s. When you let go of the expectations you have of others, you can have more control of your own life. It opens up your mind to focus on your own life and more time to focus on what truly matters to YOU. When you let go of the expectations you have of others, you will no longer allow anyone to yank your chain causing knee-jerk reaction fraught with havoc, frustration and anxiety.
2) Know the Difference Between Self-Confidence and Controlling
Confidence means that you believe in your ability to set consistent boundaries, priorities and realistic expectations for yourself and others. To control means that you wish to manage the actions of others and/or the outcome of things around you. Remember, the only person you have any control over is YOU. As your confidence level grows, you will be able to let go of the outcomes for things that you have no control over.
3) Coach people how you want to be treated
A crucial step in having more control over your life is the ability to teach others how you wish to be treated. You don’t have any control over others’ actions; however, you do have control over what boundaries you set around how you allow others to treat you. If you find yourself constantly stressed by the things you let other people to bring into your life, you may want to begin asking yourself, “is it worth having these people or things in my life any longer?” Make yourself a priority and you will find that others will treat you with the respect you deserve. Remember, no one can walk over you unless you willingly lie down.
Keep these tips in mind as you set personal boundaries to make sure you stay focused and in control of you! And for even more tip, get your free copy of Building Strong Boundaries to Create Breathing Space in Your Hectic Life
Gladys Anderson - Life Coach, Therapist, Author
Gladys Anderson, founder of Coach for YOUR Dreams, is a certified life coach, licensed marriage and family therapist, writer and speaker. Gladys combines years of experience, training and a genuine commitment to helping nurses, therapists, teachers and other caregivers balance the many demands on their time and energy, create boundaries that shift balance from overwhelm to energized, and live their lives with courage, confidence and clarity.
Wishing Will Not Create the Results You Want
Posted by: | CommentsHow often do you say “I wish…” instead of “I will”?
Wishing does not create results; action creates results. As long as you are “wishing” for something you are in a perpetual state of anticipating that your desires will be fulfilled my some magical force without you doing anything except wishing.
When you commit to taking action, you manifest the results you desire. You will make certain you follow a consistent plan of action that is in alignment with your vision and soul purpose.
Take this week to monitor how many times you utter “I wish” and consider how to turn those wishes into plans of action. Think possibilities not impossibilities.
Gladys Anderson - Life Coach, Therapist, Author
Gladys Anderson, founder of Coach for YOUR Dreams, is a certified life coach, licensed marriage and family therapist, writer and speaker. Gladys combines years of experience, training and a genuine commitment to helping nurses, teachers, therapists and other care giving women to set limits so they have more time, and energy to devote to self-care.
Spinning Wheels Get you Nowhere Fast
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Chugging along continuously, feeling just like a hamster on a wheel – spinning, spinning but going nowhere fast. That’s how a lot of women feel.
I often hear women say, “there’s just not enough hours in the day”, “where did the time go”, “it seems the more I do, the less I get done” and my favorite, “I just need more time to get everything done”. Have you ever found yourself saying any of these things?
How do you slow down the spinning wheels of your life? Most women place time high on the priority list of what they want. The reality is we all have the same 1440 minutes or 24 hours in a day. It’s more about how you use the time you do have versus the amount of time available.
When you believe you must handle everything yourself or it won’t get done (at least not the way you want it done), or it must be done just so and no one can do things that satisfy you, then what you are really looking for is control and perfection. No one (including you) is perfect. Your dinner party does not have to rival a Martha Stewart event. After all, she has staff to perform a multitude of tasks; she delegates and uses the resources available to her.
Oops, I used the “d” word. Usually when I suggest that women delegate, they think about delegating inside the cubicle of family. Step outside the box for a moment and look at the things you do on a daily basis, things you enjoy doing, things you absolute wish didn’t exist and the things that you don’t love doing but do not create anxiety for you. Think about who you can use as a resource. If you are stuck, consider some of the following to get you going:
Laundry - If laundry is interfering with your personal time and it’s not something you enjoy doing, investigate one of the wash and fold laundry services. You can either drop your clothes off or some services will pick up and deliver. How much time would that free up for you?
Housecleaning – Is housecleaning just another chore that eats away at the time you could be using for other pursuits? Why not consider having someone who enjoys this work do it for you? And, don’t use the excuse, “I can’t afford it” – remember the law of attraction – if you think you can’t afford it, you can’t.
Grocery shopping – Are you aware that a lot of supermarkets deliver and you can order via the internet? This just may be the time you need to exercise or join a class.
Yard work – Mowing the lawn and other weekend chores may be getting in the way of spending quality time with your family or taking time to pursue pleasurable activities for yourself. If so, you may want to enlist a high school or college student to mow the lawn instead of hiring a lawn service. Maybe there’s a master gardener class held in your community. Often, these students need to earn hours by doing gardening work.
Use these tips to free up more time to do the things you want most.
Please feel free to leave your comment below on how you slow down and get off the hamster wheel
Gladys Anderson - Life Coach, Therapist, Author
Gladys Anderson, founder of Coach for YOUR Dreams, is a certified life coach, licensed marriage and family therapist, writer and speaker. Gladys combines years of experience, training and a genuine commitment to helping nurses, teachers, therapists and other care giving women to set limits so they have more time, and energy to devote to self-care.
Fall into Action before 2009 Ends
Posted by: | CommentsWith the crisp mornings and even cooler evenings here in New England, it seems we are fast approaching the end of another year.
The leaves have changed colors. The sky has taken on its winter hue. The frenzy of the holidays are fast approaching with just a few more weeks until the beginning of a new year!
Where did the time go? If you’re anything like me, you wonder how summer could have come and gone so quickly.
Speaking of how quickly things change…how much headway have you made toward accomplishing the changes you started out with at the beginning of 2009?
What promises did you make to yourself this year?
How are you doing with your exercise routine?
Where are you in finally getting rid of that clutter?
What ideas are still lingering somewhere in the recesses of your mind waiting to be implemented?
Are you still procrastinating, waiting for the right time, opportunity or circumstances…
If any of this rings true, you’re not alone…
Even with the end of the year looming, and the even busier holidays taking up more of your time and energy, you still have time to take some actions.
You can start today!
Why not use the last few weeks of the year to fall into action. Zero in on what you desire most. Make a list of your goals and set realistic plans to carry them out.
If you’ve already accomplished some goals this year, congratulations! But, if you’re still working on completing some goals, it’s not too late…
Here are 3 tips to get you started:
Get your Priorities in order – Only you know what a priority is for you. Maybe, it’s spending more quality time with your family, changing careers, becoming financially fit, or having more “Me” time. Whatever priority you have set for yourself, make sure it’s more than an item on your to do list.
Write it down – A goal not written down is just a wish. Wishing does not bring about results. Write out a list of the things you want to achieve within a specific time frame. Writing down your goals gives you a visual of what you can accomplish.
Take Action – Whatever goals you set for yourself will not be realized unless you put in place some action steps. Make sure you outline step by step the actions you need to take to reach your goals. Break each goal down into manageable steps you can take to get you where you want to go.
How will you fall into action before 2009 ends? Please share your thoughts below.
Gladys Anderson - Life Coach, Therapist, Author
Gladys Anderson, founder of Coach for YOUR Dreams, is a certified life coach, licensed marriage and family therapist, writer and speaker. Gladys combines years of experience, training and a genuine commitment to helping nurses, teachers, therapists and other care giving women to set limits so they have more time, and energy to devote to self-care.