How Adding Chocolate Making to Your Busy Schedule Leads to Stress

Normally I don't read the Martha Steward column because she gives far more complicated instructions than I have the time or desire to undertake. Today was an exception, since anything with the word chocolate in it immediately catches my attention. The title, Chocolate Covered Strawberries, was clearly calling my name. I looked at the title and immediately had a vision of special "me" time, curled up in front of a fire, jazz playing softly in the background, browsing through my newest magazine and delighting in mouth watering chocolate covered strawberries. As I read the instructions, I couldn't help but think that Martha was now beginning to write recipes for the average, busy, chaos-filled life of the women of America like me.  So … [Read more...]

5 Essential Boundary Making Tips

How are you allowing others to set limits on your time and resources? Are you still taking on more and more tasks when your plate is already running over? To keep from rocking the boat, what things are you doing that you would rather not?  Taking your precious time to run an errand for someone just because they asked is not a way to show you have strong boundaries around YOUR time. How jam packed is your schedule with the many things you "have to" do for your friends and family that don't leave  time for YOU?  There are very few things you "have" to do.  Replace "I have to" with "I choose to"...You always have the choice to determine how you spend your time, energy and resources. What stories do you tell yourself supporting the … [Read more...]

What I learned About Boundaries From Larry, the Cable Guy

  Yesterday evening I picked up my phone poised to dial out and there was dead silence…no dial tone, no static…nothing… My first thought was I had inadvertently disconnected one of the many tangled cords underneath my desk. If you’ve ever had to crawl around into the abyss under your desk on your hands and knees, you know this is no small feat. With flashlight in hand, I checked each of the sundry connections making sure they were all housed in their respective homes.  From my non-techy vantage point, everything looked to be in order. Time to place a call to the provider of my phone service, which is also my cable company. With cell phone in had, I make the call.  Little did I know this was just the beginning of my saga … [Read more...]