Happiness Really is an Inside Job

Happiness really is an inside job.  A sure blueprint for unhappiness is when you say and do things that are unaligned with your integrity, beliefs and desires.  If your thinking is not in line with what you are doing and saying, you will experience conflict, anger and frustration. I often come across women who say they are not happy. They are unhappy because they are living out of integrity - doing and saying things that conflict with their beliefs, desires and expectations. One of my clients complained that she was "just unhappy" and didn't like saying "no" to family members and friends and often wound up feeling that her time and wishes were ignored. As we worked together, we uncovered why she wasn't happy in her personal life. She … [Read more...]

Put Multitasking on Hold

Lately, I've been thinking a lot about how I can put multitasking on hold mostly when I'm on a call and another is waiting or I glance at my computer screen and see I am working in several windows simultaneously. Multitasking can easily become a big part of our lives especially now with the busy holiday season fast approaching.  And, all of this multitasking starts to make me feel like I'm on an out of control roller coaster wishing someone would put on the brakes.  Like most women, I find myself occasionally deep in the throes of multitasking and busyness. But, when I can slow down long enough to allow myself some breathing space, I realize that in addition to all the appointments, household chores, social commitments, and other demands … [Read more...]

Do You Make These Deadly Mistakes When Carving Out Time for Self-Care?

I know how difficult it is to carve out space for self-care when you are inundated with the ironing, cooking, cleaning and trying to balance your personal and professional life. It  may seem like all the demands made on you are draining you of precious energy and you're so tired you could sleep for a week,  yet you might not sleep well even if you have time. It's hard to believe,  but we are just a few weeks away from the busy holiday season. The struggle for self-care will be even more evident when we take on the added stress of shopping for gifts, entertaining and trying to fit self-care into our busy schedules. Do you make these deadly mistakes when carving out time for self care? Saying "yes" when you really want to say … [Read more...]

Choose Your Words Carefully – Use Empowering Words

Choose your words carefully and make your wishes known by using empowering words such as I choose to/not to or I will/won't.  Disempowering words like "I/you can't, "I/you have to", and "I/you should", send the message that you easily give away your power or you’re attempting to disempower someone else with misguided expectations. For example, every time I find myself saying  “I should”, I ask myself am I responding to my wishes or someone else's.  This is the formula I use: Is it good for me? Is it good for them? Do I want to do it If it's not something you really want to do or you're considering doing it because you want to please or you're looking to get validation or acceptance, then you are responding to an unspoken … [Read more...]

Self-Care Can Sneak Its Way Into Your Daily Routine

 Self-care can sneak its way into your daily routine even when you’re so exhausted you hardly have enough energy to crawl out of bed. But, if you don’t make space daily for self-care you end up often feeling irritable, anxious, depressed or bored.  And all of that negative energy further depletes you and pushes self-care even farther into the background. According to Dr. Christiane Northrup, a women’s health expert, the key to self-care is knowing in your heart that the best way you can care for others is by caring for yourself.  It’s not selfish or to take care of yourself first.  By doing so, you are assured that you have enough energy to take care of the other people in your life. Here are some easy ways you can let self care … [Read more...]