Chugging along continuously, feeling just like a hamster on a wheel – spinning, spinning but going nowhere fast. That’s how a lot of women feel.
I often hear women say, “there’s just not enough hours in the day”, “where did the time go”, “it seems the more I do, the less I get done” and my favorite, “I just need more time to get everything done”. Have you ever found yourself saying any of these things?
How do you slow down the spinning wheels of your life? Most women place time high on the priority list of what they want. The reality is we all have the same 1440 minutes or 24 hours in a day. It’s more about how you use the time you do have versus the amount of time available.
When you believe you must handle everything yourself or it won’t get done (at least not the way you want it done), or it must be done just so and no one can do things that satisfy you, then what you are really looking for is control and perfection. No one (including you) is perfect. Your dinner party does not have to rival a Martha Stewart event. After all, she has staff to perform a multitude of tasks; she delegates and uses the resources available to her.
Oops, I used the “d” word. Usually when I suggest that women delegate, they think about delegating inside the cubicle of family. Step outside the box for a moment and look at the things you do on a daily basis, things you enjoy doing, things you absolute wish didn’t exist and the things that you don’t love doing but do not create anxiety for you. Think about who you can use as a resource. If you are stuck, consider some of the following to get you going:
Laundry – If laundry is interfering with your personal time and it’s not something you enjoy doing, investigate one of the wash and fold laundry services. You can either drop your clothes off or some services will pick up and deliver. How much time would that free up for you?
Housecleaning – Is housecleaning just another chore that eats away at the time you could be using for other pursuits? Why not consider having someone who enjoys this work do it for you? And, don’t use the excuse, “I can’t afford it” – remember the law of attraction – if you think you can’t afford it, you can’t.
Grocery shopping – Are you aware that a lot of supermarkets deliver and you can order via the internet? This just may be the time you need to exercise or join a class.
Yard work – Mowing the lawn and other weekend chores may be getting in the way of spending quality time with your family or taking time to pursue pleasurable activities for yourself. If so, you may want to enlist a high school or college student to mow the lawn instead of hiring a lawn service. Maybe there’s a master gardener class held in your community. Often, these students need to earn hours by doing gardening work.
Use these tips to free up more time to do the things you want most.
Please feel free to leave your comment below on how you slow down and get off the hamster wheel
Gladys Anderson, founder of Coach for YOUR Dreams, is a certified life coach, licensed marriage and family therapist, writer and speaker. Gladys combines years of experience, training and a genuine commitment to helping nurses, teachers, therapists and other care giving women to set limits so they have more time, and energy to devote to self-care.