Pretty is as Pretty Does

I often use to hear my grandmother say, “pretty is as pretty does”  whenever someone complimented one of her grandchildren on their looks.

It was one of those sayings that I heard often, but never really giving much thought to what it meant until recently.

Recently, as I waited in a line [practicing patience], I overheard a well dressed, attractive young woman say to someone in a rather nasty tone, “what the *%&*^ are you looking at?”  And, immediately I was transported back to my childhood hearing my grandmother’s voice, “pretty is as pretty does“.

No matter how well dressed, articulate or well connected you are if you are not pretty on the inside, you present your ugly side to the world – just like the woman I overheard sprouting ugliness.  It’s not what’s on the outside that counts but more about what’s on the inside.  That’s what my grandmother meant by pretty is as pretty does.

We all have days that can feel overwhelming, overscheduled and stressed. But, it helps if you have some things in your mental toolbox to keep you uplifted, focused and positive.

Here are some things you can keep in your toolbox so you can show up pretty inside and out.

A hammer – use your hammer to drive away negative thoughts, feelings and irritability. When you are stressed you are prone to irritability and insensitive comments.  Learn ways to reduce stress so that you aren’t constantly in a foul mood.

Nails – Each nail in your toolbox represents one of your personal boundaries. Develop strong personal boundaries to stay in touch with your own emotions, preserve your energy and protect your precious time.

A Flashlight – Your smile is your bright light.  Let it guide you wherever you go. Each day when you are getting dressed to go out into the world, commit to smiling at everyone you meet to immediately brighten your day. No matter what you’re going through, it doesn’t help to dwell in negativity. Put on your smiley face.

Gloves – Wear gloves to gently massage your bruised feelings and protect you from negativity.  Memorize a positive affirmation to uplift you and keep you motivated. [Example] I radiate confidence, grace, and happiness wherever I go.

What tools do you use that help you stay “positive and pretty?  It would be great if you would share them here in the comment section…

About the Author:

Gladys Anderson - Life Coach, Therapist, Author



Gladys M. Anderson is a certified group coach, personal life coach and a licensed marriage & family therapist.  Gladys helps nurses, therapists, teachers and other caregivers establish boundaries, build balance and create breathing space in their busy lives.



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