It’s True: You Can Get Rid of the Clutter Monster

Do you know that a quarter of homeowners with two-car garages use them exclusively for storage and park in the driveway? How do we become such hostages to the jumble of odds and ends that once gave us pleasure and fond memories and now have outlived its usefulness? This week, I finally took on the gigantic task of clearing the clutter from my basement storage area and the garage! Whew! How many times had I said, "we really need to clear out some stuff of this stuff." It was merely a passing comment…didn't happen! So to solve the problem, I tried my best to ignore the growing mound of useless odds and ends that had taken over my space. I finally could tolerate it no longer. So amongst the empty soda cans, the unused boxes of … [Read more...]

What Are You Tolerating Today That Could Free You to Live Authentically?

In my work, I talk to many women who are convinced that their lot in life has been cast. Whatever circumstance they find themselves in, they have deluded themselves into believing that the situation can’t change for them and struggle to make sense of the choices they have made. One woman in an intolerable relationship felt that she had made a commitment and no matter what, she would “stick it out”. Another woman I know decided long ago that her life was dictated by the circumstances of her upbringing and continued to relinquish her power to her family. Commitment and a sense of responsibility is a wonderful attribute, however, when loyalty binds you to intolerable situations, it’s time to refocus. I once heard someone say, “people … [Read more...]

Enjoying the Journey

I don't buy lottery tickets but if I did, I would be among the many who invest in the fallacy that they will become the next millionaire. A lot of women are living their lives waiting to hit the illusive jackpot. And for a lot of us, the jackpot is usually - when I get settled" (whatever that means), "after I pay off some debt", "as soon as I can find time", "when the last child is off to college" and other far-off reward thinking. Why not enjoy as much of the journey as possible now and not put off joy today for that magical reward when you arrive at some ill conceived destination? What opportunities have you missed spending the better part of your lives waiting...and missing out on some delicious opportunities to savor the moment. As … [Read more...]

Slow Down – Don’t Dance So Fast

Here's a great poem from the book The 4-Hour Work Week by Tim Ferris that I would like to share with you. Slow Dance Have you ever watch kids On a merry-go-round? Or listened to the rain Slapping on the ground? Ever followed a butterfly’s erratic flight? Or gazed at the sun into the fading light? You better slow down. Don’t dance so fast. Time is short. The music won’t last. Do you run through each day On the fly? When you ask: How are you ? Do you hear the reply? When the day is done, do you lie in your bed With the next hundred chores Running through your head? You’d better slow down. Don’t dance so fast. Time is short. The music won’t last. Ever told your child, We’ll do it tomorrow? And in … [Read more...]

The Days of Our Lives

It’s official – summer is over!  The vibrant green colors of warmer and brighter days are but a faint memory.  When I look around now, I see a sharp contrast to the lush green of summer.  I see vivid colors of orange, muted brown, burgundy red, tawny taupe and sunny yellows sprinkling the landscape. I’m reminded of how the changes in the seasons mimic the days of our lives.  I’m reminded of how transitional life is; how we seamlessly transcend from one season to another. As a child, summers were full of carefree days playing games outside like hopscotch, red light, hide and seek and any other games our creative minds could conjure up during summer recess. Our only goal was to have fun before we transitioned to adulthood. Summers … [Read more...]

Growing Up or Growing Old

Growing Up or Growing Old By: Author Unknown The first day of school our professor introduced himself and challenged us to get to know someone we didn't already know. I stood up to look around when a gentle hand touched my shoulder. I turned around to find a wrinkled, little old lady beaming up at me with a smile that lit up her entire being. She said, "Hi, handsome! My name is Rose. I'm 87 years old. Can I give you a hug?" I laughed and enthusiastically responded, "Of course you may!" and she gave me a giant squeeze. "Why are you in college at such a young, innocent age?" I asked. She jokingly replied, "I'm here to meet a rich husband, get married, have a couple of children, and then retire and travel." "No seriously," I asked. I was … [Read more...]

What You Believe is What You Manifest

jacksonville digi art "Every person naturally wants to become all that they are capable of becoming; this desire to realize innate possibilities is inherent in human nature; we cannot help wanting to be all that we can be." - Wallace Wattle Everything you need and want will be made available when you need it, in the way you need it. And, the best part is, you don’t have to figure out HOW it will manifest itself. Your job is to simply believe! When the office I worked in for 17 years closed its doors I felt as though I had been thrown out to sea without a lifeline. You see, I didn’t know what I wanted to be when I grew up. I spent so many years supporting someone else's dream, while mine simmered on the back burner that I … [Read more...]

How to Say No and Mean It

You always have the power to say to no any request just as others have the power to say no to your requests. When you say no to a request for money, time, gifts or commitments, you are in essence asserting your power and authenticity. Guilt is not a part of NO!  There is no need to feel guilty when you are setting your own priorities and taking charge of your life. Have you ever had someone, particularly someone close to you, tell you “no”?  What was the feeling it invoked?  If you felt hurt, angry, embarrassed, rejected, etc.,  was it because of the subconscious meaning you attached to their “no”?  Maybe it brought up feelings of dismissal, abandonment or trauma.  The power you give to the meaning of “no” is yours alone.  How you … [Read more...]

In Perfect Alignment

Have you ever wondered if you make the right choices, live your life in harmony with what you know to be true? One of the things that I absolutely know for sure is that I have he right to make choices for my life, express my desires and am in total control of how I speak, act and respond to circumstances, other people and situations. I need only to respond in alignment with my own truth. I offer you the following things that you must embrace if you are to live joyfully and in alignment with your own unique truth: 1) Know that you are in control of your thoughts, actions, words and  responses.  When your response is in harmony with your words actions and thoughts, you are empowered and joyful. 2) You can confidently state your intent … [Read more...]

Creating Self-Time

Would you continue to invite guests into your home who constantly insult you, disregard your boundaries, and, cast dispersion on your surroundings? Why then, would you choose to allow others to invade your consciousness, leaving a trail of negative messages, disrespecting your very existence and allowing the aftermath to control how you think and feel about your destiny and your dreams? How many times have you allowed a non-crisis family situation, an unexpected phone call demanding your time, a chore you feel must be taken care of right now or any number of other things that rob you of the priorities you’ve set for yourself?  A priority is anything that is important to YOU! Most women tend to prioritize according to the needs of … [Read more...]