When you come in contact with people who disregard your boundaries, it’s like inviting unwelcome guests into your home so they can ignore you, disrespect you and leave a trail of negativity behind.
For years I used a Palm pda system to keep track of my calendar and contact lists and a cell phone for making and receiving calls. I often wonder how any of us ever manage our lives without a pda or smartphone.
I loved my baby Palm and, like most babies, my palm grew up. She turned into a problem child. Her behavior became erratic. She was uncooperative, stuck and downright difficult. She no longer respected my time as being important and refused to take responsibility for her inaction.
She no longer listened to me. She didn’t take my requests serious. She didn’t respect my wishes and was prone to completely shut down when I tried to communicate with her.
Does this sound like someone you’ve come in contact with lately?
Making the decision to give up my Palm reminds me of the struggle a lot of us have when it’s time to let go. Holding on even when you find the behaviors intolerable or offensive, refusing to accept “no” as your final answer and infringing on your time and clutter in your life
There is a purpose for everything that comes into your life and when that purpose is served, you must know when it’s time to let go. Some people [and things] are in your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime. It’s up to you to determine which it is.
There are life lessons to be learned from every experience. What I know for sure about my experience of letting to of my Palm is this:
- You must be willing to let go of people and things in your life that don’t honor your boundaries so you don’t stay stuck in a time warp. You never know what doors will open with just the right opportunity when you have made space for it.
- Know when to let go. Holding on to things that no longer serve a useful purpose takes up precious space that could better be used for something that works for you.
- Making a choice about how and what you spend your time doing creates strong time boundaries and space to do the things that are really important to you.
- Accept change. Change is inevitable…nothing stays the same. Change is a vehicle for growth
When you have problems with all of this instant, constant contact and busy-ness, what do you do to set boundaries that protect your time?
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About the Author:
Gladys M. Anderson is a certified group coach, personal life coach and a licensed marriage & family therapist. Gladys helps nurses, therapists, teachers and other caregivers establish boundaries, build balance and create breathing space into their busy lives.