How can I stop negativity coming at me from other people? is a question I hear a lot. Most of the time what is really being said is “I’m not negative, other people are”…It’s much more comfortable to blame others that it is to take responsibility for our personal thoughts, actions and responses.
While you certainly can’t control negativity in speech or behavior from other people, keep in mind you are in control of your own thoughts, feelings, behaviors and responses. When you start to recognize that you control what you think, your behaviors and responses to situations, people and events will shift dramatically. When a negative statement is made in your presence, first, you want to take 2-3 really deep breaths before your respond or react. This will give you time to reframe the negativity into something more positive and at the same time maintain your positive attitude.
If you’re trying to change, manipulate or control what someone else is thinking or doing, you’re neglecting what you’re thinking or doing
Here’s an easy tip to block negativity whenever you experience a negative emotion from words or actions:
– Make a circle on both hands with your index finger and thumb, similar to the “okay” sign. You can easily do this with your hands down to your sides, behind your back or in your pockets. And while the person is spewing negativity, you are closing off the negative energy with your thumb and index finger and keeping it from entering your mindset.
Try it the next time someone is negative around you or use it when you recognize you are being negative. It really works!
You can find more on negativity and other self help tips in my book, Master the Genie Within: Uncover, Embrace and Celebrate the Real You