How to Avoid Giving Up YOU While Giving to Others

Do you open your gifts with wild abandonment, ripping off the paper as fast as you can or are you like me, someone who gingerly opens gifts being extra careful not to destroy the wrapping? My friends will tell you that I savor opening gifts, delicately taking my time carefully unwrapping it, making sure I don't rip the paper and I usually save it to repurpose, particularly if it's attractively wrapped.  For my type A personality friends, who hurriedly rip open their gifts leaving behind a trail of jumbled paper, all the attention I give to unwrapping gifts must drive them nuts. But, I also enjoy carefully selecting and giving gifts as much as I enjoy receiving them. The catch-22 is that most of the time, you are more comfortable … [Read more...]

The Secrets To Staying Young, Being Happy And Achieving Success

You don't have to get struck by a bolt of lightning or have a degree in rocket science to know the secrets to staying young, being happy and achieving success as is so eloquently revealed in the story I’m sharing with you today. I first came across the story of an 87-year old wise, determined woman while I was attending grad school. Her profound wisdom, energy and determination inspired and motivated me to keep going… The story of this sage octogenarian very clearly illustrates what can happen when you are focused, determined, committed and willing to follow your dream. I hope these words will also inspire and trigger you to take action NOW to pursue your dreams. Here’s the story: The first day of school our professor … [Read more...]

Look Within to Find Your Way Home

Do you recall the characters from the Wizard of Oz? They all thought something was missing from their lives and they just had to find the missing piece ... Dorothy dreamed of finding her way home to Kansas The Tin Man thought he would be happy if he only had a heart The Scarecrow believed he would be happy when he had a brain The Cowardly lion thought he would find happiness with some courage Just as a lot of us do, they all were looking for answers outside of themselves.  And is most often the case, all we need is already is within our reach. The characters in the Wizard of Oz thought they didn't have what they needed to be happy. In case you need a gentle reminder from your friendly wizard about what it … [Read more...]

No More Excuses – Turn Limiting Beliefs into Empowering Thoughts

Do you hold self limiting beliefs about yourself and what you can do, be or have? A limiting belief is a deep seated thought formed by family, culture, society or group.  It's a belief that guides how you live your life, either consciously or subconsciously.  Often, these beliefs  place restrictions on who you can become and what you can achieve. Limiting beliefs can easily morph into a litany of excuses for not moving forward in your life. We all make excuses at some time in our lives…but the reality is whether or not you allow limiting beliefs to transform your life or maintain the status quo. Your  excuse may be that you're waiting for the right time, the right place, right circumstances and your statements are peppered with "I … [Read more...]

3 Tips to Set Strong Boundaries

  Your boundary is the invisible shield you put up to protect the many demands placed on your time, energy, and resources. Visualize your boundary as a shield that protects you from energy drainers, time takers and resource stealers. Protect your boundaries by learning to say NO. Begin setting strong boundaries by using these 3 tips: Practice – Practice saying NO.  You always have the power to say NO to any request just as others have the power to say NO to your requests. When you say NO to a request for money, time, gifts or commitments, you are in essence asserting your power and authenticity.  You get to set your own boundaries. You take charge of your time, energy and resources. If you are in the habit of saying YES … [Read more...]

How To Throw Light On Fears That Keep You In The Dark

Are you feeling like you are scrambling around lost in a dark tunnel without a flashlight to guide you?  Fear can make you feel that way. Don’t beat yourself up. There are a lot of women who experience that same feeling while doing and giving even more to our families, careers, and community responsibilities that we often feel overwhelmed by the sheer volume of things we have on our plates. I’ve felt that way myself from time to time while I was trying to juggle a gazillion hats, taking care of everybody but me and living a life of overwhelm, confusion and anxiety. The same kind of fear you feel when you find yourself in an unfamiliar dark place with no way to see your way out is the kind of fear that a lot of women experience … [Read more...]

How to Attract More Abundance – Show Gratitude for What You Already Have

We spend so much time focusing on all the things that go wrong in our world that we give often overlook the abundance already in our lives and the things that are going well for us. It's common knowledge that we should be grateful but we don't always take the time to stop and take stock of just how much abundance we already have in our lives. Here are some things to be grateful for that you can easily overlook: The gift of time No matter how "busy" you say you are, you still find time to use in non-productive, time killer activities. Time is still your most precious gift.  Think about how often you waste this special gift. Are you spending countless hours indulging in mindless TV watching, browsing the Internet, chatting on the … [Read more...]

Pretty is as Pretty Does

I often use to hear my grandmother say, “pretty is as pretty does”  whenever someone complimented one of her grandchildren on their looks. It was one of those sayings that I heard often, but never really giving much thought to what it meant until recently. Recently, as I waited in a line [practicing patience], I overheard a well dressed, attractive young woman say to someone in a rather nasty tone, “what the *%&*^ are you looking at?”  And, immediately I was transported back to my childhood hearing my grandmother’s voice, "pretty is as pretty does". No matter how well dressed, articulate or well connected you are if you are not pretty on the inside, you present your ugly side to the world – just like the woman I overheard … [Read more...]

The Secret to Making Changes in Your Life

Bill O'Hanlon, a well-known family therapist, says in his book, "Do One Thing Different" to focus on the solution rather than the problem. I couldn't agree more.  When all of your attention is given to the problem at hand, you end up with very little energy to apply to a solution. Long before I read The Secret,  I learned from Bill O'Hanlon that changing my thoughts and what I  paid attention to is a way for me to bring about a desired change. In my practice, I come across people everyday who say they want change but are unwilling to challenge faulty beliefs about themselves, the situation or do something different. It's much more helpful to look at the things that are going well and exceptions rather than dwelling on the … [Read more...]

TIP: How to Build a Strong Emotional Boundary

How does your outer world reflect your inner world? Are you constantly misplacing your keys, spending time looking for things, never having enough time, surrounded by chaos and negativity? When you outer world is disorganized, so is your inner world and it reflects a lack of focus and clarity. TIP: Change the way you think about things.  Replace negative, limiting, self-sabotaging thoughts with positive thoughts and affirmations.  Immediately turn each negative or limiting thought into a positive statement before it has time to infiltrate your subconscious. If you have enjoyed this tip, please submit your comments below and click the share button to share it with your … [Read more...]