Top 3 Things You Can Do To Set Boundaries That Give You Control of Your Life

There is so much in life we have little or no control over. You can't control the weather or the sun rising or setting but the good news is there are many other things that you absolutely CAN control. Here are some of them: 1) Let Go of Expectations Let go of the notion that you can change another person, their actions or non-actions. Your moral compass may not be the same as someone else's. When you let go of the expectations you have of others, you can have more control of your own life. It opens up your mind to focus on your own life and more time to focus on what truly matters to YOU. When you let go of the expectations you have of others, you will no longer allow anyone to yank your chain causing knee-jerk reaction fraught with … [Read more...]

Enjoy the Rewards Along the Journey

I don’t buy lottery tickets but if I did, I would be among the many who invest in the fallacy that they will become the next multi-millionaire. A lot of us are living our lives waiting to hit the illusive jackpot. And for some of us, the jackpot is usually – when I get settled” (whatever that means), “after I pay off some debt”, “as soon as I can find time”, “when the last child is off to college” and other far-off reward thinking. Why not enjoy as much of the journey as possible now and not put off joy today for that magical reward when you arrive at some illusive destination? What have you missed spending a big portion of your life waiting…and missing out on some delicious opportunities to savor the moment? As a young girl, I can … [Read more...]

How You Lose Sleep with Daylight Savings Time

Every year in this part of the country, we get to change our internal and physical clocks ahead one hour so we get more daylight hours and less darkness. Here in the Northeast where it can start getting dark around 4 pm in the winter, more daylight can be a good thing. Yet some states--Arizona and Hawaii--do not observe DST.  Neither do the U.S. territories American Samoa, Puerto Rico and the U.S. Virgin Island. Changing our internal clocks can lead to even more sleep deprivation and in some cases, physical ailments. The experts say we should get 8 hours of sleep a night.  Yet, a poll of 1000 people done by the National Sleep Foundation discovered that 58% of us rarely get a good nights sleep. And most of us get less than six hours of … [Read more...]

How My Palm Pilot Turned into a Problem Child

When you come in contact with people who disregard your boundaries, it’s like inviting unwelcome guests into your home so they can ignore you, disrespect you and leave a trail of negativity behind. For years I used a Palm pda system to keep track of my calendar and contact lists and a cell phone for making and receiving calls.  I often wonder how any of us ever manage our lives without a pda or smartphone. I loved my baby Palm and, like most babies, my palm grew up. She turned into a problem child. Her behavior became erratic.  She was uncooperative, stuck and downright difficult.  She no longer respected my time as being important and refused to take responsibility for her inaction. She no longer listened to me. She didn’t take my … [Read more...]

In Pursuit of Happiness

  Happiness is when what you think, what you say, and what you do are in harmony - Gandhi Most people expend a great amount of time looking for happiness in all the wrong places . They chase dreams rather than live dreams. Their lives are stimulated only by addictions, religions, and even other people in a futile attempt to fill the void with purpose and meaning. The irony is the only place they ever needed to search was within. Happiness is a state of mind based on how worthy you feel. How you feel about yourself is a direct result of the accumulated experiences you have had, particular growing up.  For instance, if you grew up being made to feel worthy, valued, loved, protected and respected, most likely you feel … [Read more...]

5 Essential Boundary Making Tips

How are you allowing others to set limits on your time and resources? Are you still taking on more and more tasks when your plate is already running over? To keep from rocking the boat, what things are you doing that you would rather not?  Taking your precious time to run an errand for someone just because they asked is not a way to show you have strong boundaries around YOUR time. How jam packed is your schedule with the many things you "have to" do for your friends and family that don't leave  time for YOU?  There are very few things you "have" to do.  Replace "I have to" with "I choose to"...You always have the choice to determine how you spend your time, energy and resources. What stories do you tell yourself supporting the … [Read more...]

How You Can Get a New Lease on Your Stressful Life – Part 3

Stress leads to strokes, high blood pressure, obesity, and a host of other serious illnesses.  Did I get your attention?  Stress is not to be taken lightly.  But the good news is, you can do something about it. Now that you are aware of the toll stress takes on your body and how to recognize stressful symptoms, here are some ways to help you get a better handle on  stress:. Try new ways of thinking - Change the way you think and the things you think about will change. Work on releasing anger, frustration and worry. Worrying about tomorrow or yesterday wastes precious energy that could best be used to tackle the things you can change Learn to say "no".  A sure way to add stress to your life is to fear saying no. Saying no … [Read more...]

10 Quick and Easy Tips to Reduce Daily Stress

In today's media frenzy, you are constantly bombarded with news of tragedy, war, economic upheaval, and more and doom and gloom headlines. All this just makes you want to scream. You focus on the problems and not your reactions to them.  That is where you open the door and let stress in. Here are ten quick and easy things you can do immediately to help keep your stress level under control: 1) Establish consistent routines - Put your keys away in the same place every day. Establishing a predictable, consistent routine allows more time to focus on other important things.  Having things in a specific location cuts down on time spent looking for them and in turn reduces frustration. 2) Avoid Rushing - Keep a small amount of cash … [Read more...]

Top 3 Things You Can Do To Take Control of Your Life

There is so much in life we have little or no control over. You can't control the weather or the sun rising or setting but the good news is there are many other things that you absolutely CAN control. Here are some of them: 1) Let Go of Expectations Let go of the notion that you can change another person, their actions or non-actions. Your moral compass may not be the same as someone else's. When you let go of the expectations you have of others, you can have more control of your own life. It opens up your mind to focus on your own life and more time to focus on what truly matters to YOU. When you let go of the expectations you have of others, you will no longer allow anyone to yank your chain causing knee-jerk reaction fraught with … [Read more...]

Appreciate Yourself First and Watch Your Confidence Soar

Women have many roles and responsibilities in their lives. You are a mother, daughter, friend, leader, co-worker, wife, partner, volunteer, financial expert, homemaker, caregiver and more – all at the same time. All of these responsibilities and multitasking contributes to feeling overwhelmed. That’s why it is critical for women to take time the time to value themselves and all the things they do. Taking some time every day to value what you do helps you to do a better job in all the other areas of your life. It also makes you feel good about yourself! There are many different ways you could value yourself. One of the ways to do this is to build your self-confidence. Confidence is the belief you have in your ability to reach your goals. … [Read more...]