How You Can Get a New Lease on Your Stressful Life – Part 3

Stress leads to strokes, high blood pressure, obesity, and a host of other serious illnesses.  Did I get your attention?  Stress is not to be taken lightly.  But the good news is, you can do something about it. Now that you are aware of the toll stress takes on your body and how to recognize stressful symptoms, here are some ways to help you get a better handle on  stress:. Try new ways of thinking - Change the way you think and the things you think about will change. Work on releasing anger, frustration and worry. Worrying about tomorrow or yesterday wastes precious energy that could best be used to tackle the things you can change Learn to say "no".  A sure way to add stress to your life is to fear saying no. Saying no … [Read more...]

10 Quick and Easy Tips to Reduce Daily Stress

In today's media frenzy, you are constantly bombarded with news of tragedy, war, economic upheaval, and more and doom and gloom headlines. All this just makes you want to scream. You focus on the problems and not your reactions to them.  That is where you open the door and let stress in. Here are ten quick and easy things you can do immediately to help keep your stress level under control: 1) Establish consistent routines - Put your keys away in the same place every day. Establishing a predictable, consistent routine allows more time to focus on other important things.  Having things in a specific location cuts down on time spent looking for them and in turn reduces frustration. 2) Avoid Rushing - Keep a small amount of cash … [Read more...]

Top 3 Things You Can Do To Take Control of Your Life

There is so much in life we have little or no control over. You can't control the weather or the sun rising or setting but the good news is there are many other things that you absolutely CAN control. Here are some of them: 1) Let Go of Expectations Let go of the notion that you can change another person, their actions or non-actions. Your moral compass may not be the same as someone else's. When you let go of the expectations you have of others, you can have more control of your own life. It opens up your mind to focus on your own life and more time to focus on what truly matters to YOU. When you let go of the expectations you have of others, you will no longer allow anyone to yank your chain causing knee-jerk reaction fraught with … [Read more...]

Appreciate Yourself First and Watch Your Confidence Soar

Women have many roles and responsibilities in their lives. You are a mother, daughter, friend, leader, co-worker, wife, partner, volunteer, financial expert, homemaker, caregiver and more – all at the same time. All of these responsibilities and multitasking contributes to feeling overwhelmed. That’s why it is critical for women to take time the time to value themselves and all the things they do. Taking some time every day to value what you do helps you to do a better job in all the other areas of your life. It also makes you feel good about yourself! There are many different ways you could value yourself. One of the ways to do this is to build your self-confidence. Confidence is the belief you have in your ability to reach your goals. … [Read more...]

Relax, Rejuvenate and Rest

Talk about an "aha" moment...I have had several the past couple of weeks as I lay coughing, sneezing and feeling like walked on dirt from some all-encompassing "bug". There's nothing quite as enlightening as not being able to do anything but lie still and take time for reflection. How often have I said, "take time for yourself", "take care of yourself first", etc. (you've heard it from me many times). Yet, there I was completely depleted mainly because I neglected to take care of the most important person - me. We often ignore all the warning signs - exhaustion, disturbed sleep patterns, lack of energy - while feeling like we're on a fast moving treadmill at top speed. Don't ignore these warning signs. This is exactly the time to … [Read more...]

Enjoying the Journey

I don't buy lottery tickets but if I did, I would be among the many who invest in the fallacy that they will become the next millionaire. A lot of women are living their lives waiting to hit the illusive jackpot. And for a lot of us, the jackpot is usually - when I get settled" (whatever that means), "after I pay off some debt", "as soon as I can find time", "when the last child is off to college" and other far-off reward thinking. Why not enjoy as much of the journey as possible now and not put off joy today for that magical reward when you arrive at some ill conceived destination? What opportunities have you missed spending the better part of your lives waiting...and missing out on some delicious opportunities to savor the moment. As … [Read more...]

Slow Down – Don’t Dance So Fast

Here's a great poem from the book The 4-Hour Work Week by Tim Ferris that I would like to share with you. Slow Dance Have you ever watch kids On a merry-go-round? Or listened to the rain Slapping on the ground? Ever followed a butterfly’s erratic flight? Or gazed at the sun into the fading light? You better slow down. Don’t dance so fast. Time is short. The music won’t last. Do you run through each day On the fly? When you ask: How are you ? Do you hear the reply? When the day is done, do you lie in your bed With the next hundred chores Running through your head? You’d better slow down. Don’t dance so fast. Time is short. The music won’t last. Ever told your child, We’ll do it tomorrow? And in … [Read more...]

Growing Up or Growing Old

Growing Up or Growing Old By: Author Unknown The first day of school our professor introduced himself and challenged us to get to know someone we didn't already know. I stood up to look around when a gentle hand touched my shoulder. I turned around to find a wrinkled, little old lady beaming up at me with a smile that lit up her entire being. She said, "Hi, handsome! My name is Rose. I'm 87 years old. Can I give you a hug?" I laughed and enthusiastically responded, "Of course you may!" and she gave me a giant squeeze. "Why are you in college at such a young, innocent age?" I asked. She jokingly replied, "I'm here to meet a rich husband, get married, have a couple of children, and then retire and travel." "No seriously," I asked. I was … [Read more...]

What You Believe is What You Manifest

jacksonville digi art "Every person naturally wants to become all that they are capable of becoming; this desire to realize innate possibilities is inherent in human nature; we cannot help wanting to be all that we can be." - Wallace Wattle Everything you need and want will be made available when you need it, in the way you need it. And, the best part is, you don’t have to figure out HOW it will manifest itself. Your job is to simply believe! When the office I worked in for 17 years closed its doors I felt as though I had been thrown out to sea without a lifeline. You see, I didn’t know what I wanted to be when I grew up. I spent so many years supporting someone else's dream, while mine simmered on the back burner that I … [Read more...]

How to Say No and Mean It

You always have the power to say to no any request just as others have the power to say no to your requests. When you say no to a request for money, time, gifts or commitments, you are in essence asserting your power and authenticity. Guilt is not a part of NO!  There is no need to feel guilty when you are setting your own priorities and taking charge of your life. Have you ever had someone, particularly someone close to you, tell you “no”?  What was the feeling it invoked?  If you felt hurt, angry, embarrassed, rejected, etc.,  was it because of the subconscious meaning you attached to their “no”?  Maybe it brought up feelings of dismissal, abandonment or trauma.  The power you give to the meaning of “no” is yours alone.  How you … [Read more...]