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Living Consciously – Every Day!
Posted by: | CommentsWould You Like to Live More Consciously – Every Day? This new book shows you how
I’ve recently become aware of a new inspirational, uplifting and empowering book for women to live consciously and I want you to have access to it as well.
I’d like to share with you not one, but forty-seven inspiring women who have courageously chosen to share their stories so that you have company and a guiding force on your journey of life. These are remarkable stories of living consciously in relationship, career, wellness and spirituality. They will speak to your heart and soul and, as you read, you may see yourself in their words. You’ll be moved to live more consciously as you move through your life and you’ll get more fulfillment and satisfaction out of each day. Because…
If they can do it, you can too.
This anthology book celebrates the strength and beauty that all women possess. It provides a resource, a sounding board and a path for you to follow. And mostly, it speaks the truth about surviving and thriving through uncertainty, growth and seemingly impossible circumstances.
Watch the book trailer at: http://wlcbook.com
These 47 women celebrate the launch of Women Living Consciously by treating you to an incredible one-time book-launch offer with special bonus gifts from more than 50 joint venture partners.
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This book will help you to move more quickly into your realization of personal greatness, wholeness and conscious living, and it will open your heart to the joy of becoming the real you in every sense imaginable.
In this book, You’ll Discover these Timeless Truths and Valuable Lessons:
• Rid yourself of the “disease to please” once and for all
• Recognize the diamond in the rough and polish it
• Know that your dreams have no limits–empower yourself
• Build your business to match your vision, no matter the economy
• Survivor and victim are two sides of the same coin–you choose
• Childhood trauma doesn’t equal a traumatized adult
• Labels are not death sentences, they’re just words
• How to live an authentic life in alignment with your highest values
• Spirit exists in every experience, sometimes you just need faith
• Release the darkness of the past and open up to your bright future
• Living in the moment is all you really have
• Love is the greatest elixir for all ills–physical, emotional and spiritual
• Fear is all in your head; living from your heart is the only way to eliminate it
• Maintain eternal connections with loved ones for greater peace
The courageous stories in “Women Living Consciously” will inspire you to pursue your dreams and live the fulfilled and meaningful lives you are destined to have.
Click here to purchase the book and receive your special bonus gifts.
I look forward to hearing your comments on the book!
Gladys Anderson, Life Coach, Therapist, Author
Gladys M. Anderson is a certified life coach, licensed marriage & family therapist, consultant, workshop facilitator and author of the soon to be published book, “Master the Genie Within”. She coaches women in the art of saying no and how to protect their precious time and energy by setting strong boundaries to create a uniquely crystal clear vision for the satisfying careers and relationships they truly want.
How Problems, Patterns and Perceptions Influence Your Behaviors
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If you’re anything like a lot of people, you’ve had your share of problems. And, that could be anything from a pesky leaky faucet to totaling your new car.
In the book, Power is Within You, written by the wise Louise Hays, she talks about how the problems we have with our cars may suggest some inner issue that we have not faced. For example, if you’re feeling stuck and can’t seem to move forward, that feeling might show up in the form of a flat tire preventing you from getting to your destination.
And, just as you would call your local auto club or a friend to fix your tire, you must call on your inner reserves and delve deep into the patterns and perceptions you embrace to repair the irrational beliefs that are keeping you stuck.
Maybe you believe you can’t do anything right. You may regularly find yourself making mistakes that you label “stupid or dumb” such as forgetting to put the trash out on trash day. That’s a simple mistake that can easily be remedied and has nothing to do with your capabilities or worth.
Whether you believe it or not, the events that occur in our lives are directly connected to what we believe about the world, other people and ourselves.
We simply assume that the way we see things is the way they really are or the way they should be. And our attitudes and behaviors grow out of these assumptions – Stephen Covey
Here are a few things to consider about problems, patterns and perceptions:
1. Inspect Your Expectations
Make a conscious effort to place realistic expectations on yourself and others. Try your best to consider the other person’s perspective. Ask yourself is your expectation is the result of a pattern or perception that the other person is not aware of. For example, your expectation might be that your daughter should rearrange her plans to take you to the mall today. Your may think that because she is your daughter, she should accommodate your request. If the word “should” enters your thoughts, it’s because you’re operating out of expectations.
2. Revise Your Patterns
A pattern is simply a blueprint of things you’ve always done. For example, if you’ve “always” hosted Sunday dinner for your in-laws, you’ve established a Sunday pattern. If you’ve ever sewn anything, you know that any pattern can easily be altered. The way to change a pattern is to measure and compare. Grade yourself on a scale of 1-10 as to whether or not you feel obligated, coerced or put upon by continuing this pattern,(with 10 being the most you are vested in sticking to the original pattern). If you find you’re stuck in a pattern that no longer works for you, change it to something that fits better with your timetable and lifestyle. And, of course, you can always say NO to anything you really don’t want to do!
3. Pesky Problems
Sometimes what we view as problems are nothing more than a bump in the road. It’s not a problem when you’re running late for an appointment and discover you have a flat tire. It’s an inconvenience. When your computer freezes up on you in the middle of a document, it’s not a problem. It’s an inconvenience. Many times we label inconveniences as problems when, in fact, it’s our perception and attitudes that allow “problems” to dictate our behavior and responses. It’s all about how you perceive them. If you view something as a problem, it will be a problem. But if you reframe it as an inconvenience, you know that it’s temporary and won’t change the course of your life.
Most of the time, it’s our perceptions and expectations that create “problems” and establish patterns that no longer fit. For more tips about how to align your perceptions with realistic expectations, visit http://cooachforyourdreams.com/blog
Gladys Anderson, Life Coach, Therapist, Author
Gladys M. Anderson is a certified life coach, licensed marriage & family therapist, consultant, workshop facilitator and author of the soon to be published book, “Master the Genie Within”. She coaches women in the art of saying no and how to protect their precious time and energy by setting strong boundaries to create a uniquely crystal clear vision for the satisfying careers and relationships they truly want.
I’ve Never Been to ME
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When you think of a relationship do you think of the connection you have with your family, friends, money, co-workers and neighbors?
Of course you do.
But wait, don’t you also want to think about the loving healthy relationship you have with yourself? You do have a healthy, loving relationship with yourself, don’t you?
Or what about the relationship you have with money, your emotional well being, your integrity and your values?
One of my favorite songs is “I’ve Never Been to Me” by Nancy Wilson. In the song, she sings about meeting kings, queens and all the dreams she’s deferred but never been free to be herself. At least that’s my take on the song.
A lot of people have the trappings of what society tells us is a successful life. Take the case of Charlie Sheen, the TV star of the hit comedy, Two and a Half Men. You may recall the train wreck that caused him to fall from grace and self destruct. He had the huge salary, dream homes with luxurious furnishings, fancy cars, jewelry, and exotic vacations. But none of these accessories and outward signs of success equated to happiness and personal freedom.
Ultimately, you and only you are in charge of your happiness and success. All the money in the world does not insure you are living a successful, content and productive life.
If you feel coerced into doing something that you don’t personally approve of, you’re chipping away at your personal freedom.
When you lack the courage to ask questions and speak up for what’s right, you slice away at your integrity.
The freedom you’re looking for won’t come from engaging in reckless behavior or living a life of the rich and famous. The freedom you seek is the freedom to be real, uncovering the loving, brave and self-governed spirit that’s beneath all the outward signs of a happy and fulfilled life.
If you live an authentic life, you’ll never have to bemoan the song, “I’ve Never Been to Me”. If you do relate to the song, it means you’ve lost touch with your core self – the part of you that can’t easily be persuaded to follow the crowd – the part of you that has a core value system that can’t be compromised.
When you can stand up for what you believe without apology and do what’s right, even if you have to risk distancing yourself from family, friends and colleagues, you show up as the “real you”. Your beliefs, actions and values are in alignment and outer trappings of happiness and success do not sway you.
Keep in mind that the relationship you have with yourself is the most important relationship you’ll ever have.
How is the relationship you have with yourself?
To learn more and get your FREE audios of 7 Daily Self Care Tips, I invite you to join our Self Care Circle at http://coachforyourdreams.com.
Gladys Anderson - Life Coach, Therapist, Author
Certified Life Coach, Family therapist and Group Coaching Specialist, Gladys M. Anderson, helps nurses, teachers, social workers, therapists and other busy overwhelmed women to set limits so they have more time, more joy and more energy for self-care.
How to Conquer Your Fears
Posted by: | CommentsDoes your throat close up at the thought of standing in front of your peers to give a presentation at work?
Are you afraid that people won’t like you if you say “no”?
Does the idea of starting your own business, or changing careers send shivers down your spine?
Some of the things you fear can keep you confined in a prison of immobility unable to make the necessary change to move forward. And, if not addressed, fear will eventually eat away at your self-confidence and prevent you from feeling empowered, decisive and free to make choices that enrich your life.
Although fear is a natural automatic response to scary situations, it’s not meant to block you from trying new things, following your dreams, or living your best life. Fear is a problem when it holds you hostage and prevents you from experiencing new and interesting things.
Here are some things you can do to create new thoughts about fear:
- Inspect your expectations – A common acronym for fear is “False Expectations Appearing Real”. Unrealistic expectations are a major contributor to fear. When you expect the worst to happen, it usually does. You can balance fear by thinking positively and setting realistic expectations for yourself and others.
- Question your fears – Ask yourself if the fear has merit. Most things we fear will never happen. For example, you may be asked to speak in front of a group and you spend time worrying that you’ll fall flat on your face. But, is this likely to happen? Probably not. Question the possibility of what might happen. Being well prepared goes a long way in alleviating a fear such as public speaking.
- Weigh the pros and cons – Fear loses its power when you remember that it’s simply a feeling. Except in life threatening situations, it can’t harm you. You can choose to ignore it, give in to it or move forward anyway. What is the likelihood of your fear materializing? If you make a mistake, can you correct it?
If you weigh the advantages and disadvantages of the fearful situation, you may discover that a negative expectation is guiding your decision-making.
Researchers tell us that the majority of things we worry about will never happen. I know that’s hard to believe when fear has a hold on you. But, if you can remember that conquering fear means you are empowered and you know when most of your fear is groundless, it becomes easier to overcome.
To learn more about how to conquer fear, I invite you to join our self-care circle and get your FREE special report, Building Strong Boundaries to Create Breathing Space in Your Hectic Life.
Gladys Anderson - Life Coach, Therapist, Author
Gladys M. Anderson helps nurses, teachers, social workers, therapists and other busy overwhelmed women to set limits so they have more time, more joy and more energy for self-care
The Days of Our Lives
Posted by: | CommentsIt’s official – summer is over! The vibrant green colors of warmer and brighter days are but a faint memory. When I look around now, I see a sharp contrast to the lush green of summer. I see vivid colors of orange, muted brown, burgundy red, tawny taupe and sunny yellows sprinkling the landscape.
I’m reminded of how the changes in the seasons mimic the days of our lives. I’m reminded of how transitional life is; how we seamlessly transcend from one season to another.
As a child, summers were full of carefree days playing games outside like hopscotch, red light, hide and seek and any other games our creative minds could conjure up during summer recess. Our only goal was to have fun before we transitioned to adulthood.
Summers remind me of those carefree days before I grew into young adulthood (before marriage, children, and a multitude of other responsibilities) when my primary goal in life was to have matching shoes for my ever-growing wardrobe.
And as quickly as summer passes, fall and autumn emerge. And before you know it, the summers of your life turn slowly into autumn years. You have to wonder, where did the time go?
It seems, one day I was a child, a young adult ready to conquer the world, then as quick as lighting strikes I was a middle age woman and “bam” – here I am moving toward yet another transition.
You’ve heard the saying “youth is wasted on the young”. I take that to simply mean when you are a full fledged adult your perspective changes and are aware that you would have made different choices if you had known what you know now.
How different would your life be had you known just a smidging of what you know now?
How many more untapped dreams could you have pursued?
How much more joy could you have experienced?
Of course, everything looks different in retrospect. But your life experiences are not recorded on a digital camera where you can delete the pictures that don’t meet with your approval. You must experience each transition so that you can learn from it and become wiser and more mature. When you’re much younger, the notion that each day represents an opportunity to learn a lesson and grow is pretty much a foreign concept.
In my youth, I had no idea what it meant to live my dream. In fact, back then I didn’t have the focus or wisdom to even know what my dream was. The wisdom and the experiences I have had could only come through the transitions and knowledge I have gained as I navigate my way through life stages.
I choose to view each transition as just another season that I will embrace, savor, enjoy and know that I am blessed to have reached another season in my life.
Be grateful for each accomplishment, milestone, and transition that you are blessed to experience. Your unique talents are just waiting to be unmasked. Begin today to use each of your experiences as a platform for growth, development and pursuing your dreams.
Gladys Anderson - Life Coach, Therapist, Author
Gladys Anderson, founder of Coach for YOUR Dreams, is a certified life coach, licensed marriage and family therapist, writer and speaker. Gladys combines years of experience, training and a genuine commitment to helping nurses, teachers, therapists and other care giving women to set limits so they have more time, and energy to devote to self-care.