Are You the Pilot or Passenger?

I'm sure a lot of you can agree that most of our behaviors, habits, decisions and responses stem from complex invisible patterns and experiences we've had within our families and society. And those experiences sometimes creates a false sense of who we really are. We become the passenger and not the pilot in our own lives. We continue to allow these familial beliefs, rituals and faulty messages to derail our dreams and prevent us from living joyful lives. Are You the Pilot or Passenger? A pilot is in charge of the instrumentation that paves the way for a smooth, safe journey. In other words, the pilot makes the decisions about how and when to react in unpredictable situations. She follows a specific flight pattern to get you safely to … [Read more...]

Escape the Responsibility Trap

Are you feeling confused, trapped and overwhelmed by the seemingly endless "responsibility trap" that zaps your time and energy? Have you ever found yourself saying? "I don't have time for me" "I have to take care of everything or it won't get done" "I feel guilty when I say "no" "Something or someone always gets in the way of me taking time for myself" If you've said or thought any of the above, you are not alone! Our lives become unmanageable when we don’t you fully understand the differences between responsibility and choice. Responsibility means you have some control or authority over a situation or another person. Choice means you have options and the right to make decisions based on what you … [Read more...]

5 Tips to Boost Confidence

                      Have you ever watched a self-confident woman enter a room? Did you notice the purposeful walk, the smile that says "I'm here in all my glory" without seeming cocky or boastful? Did you also notice how she seemed to look into the eyes of everyone she passes with a genuine greeting and smile? Did you pay attention to how she seemed to focus intently on the person she was talking to? Have you ever witnessed someone like that woman and wondered "how does she come across so confident"? "What's her secret"? Confident people make mistakes – they admit to it; they know who they are - warts and all. When an end result is uncertain, … [Read more...]

Make Room in Your Life

                        This quote reminds me that one of the best things we can do for ourselves is to do more of the things we love and enjoy. Deferring our passions, dreams, and goals does nothing to nourish our souls and spearhead us on the path of success, fulfillment and joy. To see more quotes and inspirational tips like this, join us over in the Self Care Circle.   … [Read more...]

Doing Ordinary Things Extraordinarily

When you think of greatness, who comes to mind - Martin Luther King, Mother Teresa, Joan of Arc, Oprah, Muhammad Ali, Bobby Fischer, Deepak Chopra? Guess what, none of these people are any different that you or me. They didn't just wake up one day and decide to be great. At one point, they all were everyday, ordinary people who ended up doing extraordinary things. And they followed the calling they had to bring their gifts to the world. Greatness is not about becoming famous, powerful or rich. It's not about having millions of dollars. It's not about banner headlines. It is about making a difference in someone else's life. It is about recognizing difficulties and moving past them. It is about finding your purpose in life, being … [Read more...]

How to Conquer Fear Tip #2

  Has fear got you stuck in unfulfilled careers, relationships, or other situations that don't honor you? Fear is just an unpleasant feeling of risk or danger, either real or imagined. It serves as a motivation to escape or retreat not as a means to hold us back from doing things that we could enjoy and achieve. Often, we do a lot of things that will comfort us to avoid the feeling of fear. For example, if you have a fear of flying, you most likely will seek other modes of transportation. I can recall the time fear had me in its grip.  As an adult, I wanted to learn to swim. So, I took the bold step to sign up for swimming classes. As soon as it was time to step off into the deep end of the pool, I froze!  My knees … [Read more...]

5 Positive AttitudeTips

  Each day you get to decide the kind of attitude you will have. You can soar above the clouds of negativity and make a conscious choice to either complain or be grateful. Instead of bemoaning the fact that it is raining, be thankful that you are supplied with water to feed the grass. When your attitude is out of order, so is everything else - your relationships, your work, your life. Here are some tips to help restore order to your attitude and harmony to your life: • Eliminate negative words from you vocabulary. The words "can't, and "don't" suggest a sense of hopelessness and distress. Instead, use positive words like "I can", "I will", and “I am" to lift your thoughts to a higher altitude and help you to dwell more in … [Read more...]

Speak and Live Your Truth

  "This above all: To thine own self be true, and it must follow - as the night the day - thou cans't not be false to any man." ~ From "Hamlet" by William Shakespeare   Speak and live your truth reminds me of the above quote... “to thine own self be true…” It's a clear  reminder to show up authentic every day and in every situation. It means that you are in touch with your true self without hidden agendas, masks of deception and distortions. A young man I know recently turned down a scholarship because he felt it wasn’t his true passion. He felt that the scholarship deserved to go to someone who was passionate about the opportunity. This young man is already standing in his truth. He knows what he wants and is not swayed … [Read more...]

5 Tips to Put Fun in Your Life

Have you played enough this year or have you been too busy being an adult? If you notice when children play there's an effervescence about them. They don't hold back on having fun. They are creative, inquisitive, adventuresome, and readily engage in new experiences. They have a great time just "being". What happens to the spontaneity, adventurous spirit and fun when we become adults? Growing up and growing older does not require any special talent or ability or prevent us from having fun. Having fun is usually one of the things we let slip through our fingers. Limiting beliefs often keep us from pursuing more fun. Messages like, "you're too old to…" grown ups don't…” "you're acting silly", "when are you going to grow up?" are … [Read more...]

5 Reasons to Take Vacation

  July is the unofficial start of the summer vacation season for a lot of us.  The children are out of school and we start to think about taking a welcome respite from work to enjoy lazy days relaxing away from our daily routines and responsibilities.  Being away from your work and routine allows the body time to replenish and repair itself. A Harris poll indicates that only 14% of Americans will take a vacation of two weeks or more this year.  And, according to a recent poll from Rasmussen Reports, an astounding 72% of workers said they would check in via e-mail occasionally - if not every day - while on vacation. A vacation is meant to be a restorative time and a protection against the ill effects of stress and physical … [Read more...]