Master the Art of Preparation

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I was reminded of the concept of preparation recently when my husband, who is a chef, received his association magazine, Mise en Place (a French phrase for "put in place"). In the chef's world, the term means to organize the necessary tools and ingredients for the evening meal. When you master the art of preparation, you are not just focused on the details, outcome and possibilities.  While these things are important, preparation means that you have armed yourself with not only the necessary tools, resources and knowledge to get the job done but you are also prepared mentally and physically. Most of us think of preparation as the steps we take to get ready for an event or undertaking such as preparing for a party. We are usually well … [Read more...]

Lofty Expectations from Imperfect People

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Lofty expectations from imperfect people are a recipe for disappointment and unforgiveness. As children we see our parents, grandparents, family members, and teachers as perfect specimens of human virtue. As we grow and mature, we begin to see their faults, mistakes and other shortcomings. And while the world you grew up in may have been filled with imperfect people (some more imperfect than others), you must learn to forgive and move on. More than likely, the people around you were operating out of their past experiences and not in ways to harm you or your self esteem. There comes a point in your life when you realize your parents aren't perfect - Mia Wasikowska As the prolific poet and writer, Dr. Maya Angelou says, … [Read more...]

5 Ways You Can Live the Life You Deserve

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You're entitled to live the life you deserve unencumbered by the perceptions others have of you.  "What others think of you is none of your business," says Byron Katie, best selling author of the book, Loving What is. If only we could embrace that truth, our lives would be filled with less drama and confusion. Recently I spoke to someone who had formed a flawed perception of who I really am based on misinformation, opinions of others and experiences that had nothing to do with me. If you’ve ever been on the receiving end that kind of behavior, you know exactly what it’s like. I haven’t always been able or willing to decode others’ perceptions or understand how they feel about themselves is a direct reflection of their interaction … [Read more...]

Show Kindness to Yourself

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Show kindness to yourself even when you make a mistake, decision you regret or choices and experiences have you stuck, unmotivated and angry. We all make mistakes. If a friend made a mistake or choice that landed her in a shaky situation, how would you respond to her? More than likely you would be there to support, encourage and uplift her. So, why not extend the same courtesies and show kindness to yourself when you've made a choice that didn't turn out the way you expected? When you are beating yourself up with negative self talk, stop and use the following tips to show kindness to yourself: 1. Show kindness to yourself in the same way you would a friend who might be going through a rough patch. Speak encouraging, … [Read more...]

Mother’s Day is Every Day

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Mother's Day is everyday for the brave, loving, supportive, sacrificing and caring women who fill the role of mother. Happy Mother's Day! Mother's day is every day if you are a mother or mother figure. Every day mothers are privileged to receive sloppy kisses, heartfelt hugs, handmade gifts, pampering and an outpouring of love and affection. Sunday, May 12 is the day set aside in the United States to honor, celebrate, pamper and shower mothers with gifts, phone calls and cards of appreciation. Whether you’re being feted with sloppy kisses, treated to a lovingly prepared meal, given a fragrant bouquet of your favorite flowers, you are blessed to witness mother’s day every day.  Every day is Mother’s Day when we stop to celebrate the … [Read more...]

Check Your Judgment Meter

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    Check your judgment meter before it's on empty. Good judgment is based on our ability to form an opinion objectively and with some knowledge and insight. However, often our judgments are based on everything except objectivity, knowledge or fact. This was certainly the case with me on a recent trip to the supermarket when I noticed a young woman on her cellphone. That day, my judgment meter was running on empty. One of the things that will drain my judgment meter is seeing someone talking on a cellphone in public places. It seems everywhere I look someone is on a cell phone. And I often judge them to be rude, inconsiderate and uncaring individuals. I have no interest in hearing the details of last night's … [Read more...]

25 Quotes to Spark “Aha” Moments

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          For years, I’ve collected inspirational quotes that elicit and spark those illusive "‘aha" moments. Here are some of my favorite quotes. I hope you enjoy then as much as I do. If you cannot do great things, do small things in a great way. —Napoleon Hill Sometimes you’ve just got to give yourself what you wish someone else would give you. —Phil McGraw Be grateful to people who make us happy. They are the charming gardeners who make our souls blossom. —Marcel Proust The purpose of life is to live it to taste experience to the utmost to reach out eagerly and without fear for newer and richer experiences —Eleanor Roosevelt Courage doesn’t always roar. Sometimes … [Read more...]

Self Awareness is Key to Empowerment

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  Self awareness is the key to preventing the emotional drama that guides your reactions to situations and other people. Knowing your strengths, weaknesses, vulnerabilities, thoughts and feelings is a big step towards knowing who you really are. Without such knowledge, we end up vulnerable, frustrated, inauthentic, unmotivated and often unsuccessful in achieving our dreams. Here are some quick self awareness tips to motivate and inspire you:   Slow down  Have you ever noticed how fast you breathe when you are rushed or in a hurry to get somewhere?  Most of us rarely engage in mindful breathing and consequently we are in a state of anxiety most days. Learn to notice your breathing by setting aside a few minutes each … [Read more...]

Celebrate International Women’s Day Every Day

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March 8th is the day designated to Celebrate International Women's Day - a global day of celebration to inspire and honor and support the achievements of women throughout the world. In some countries, the day is an official holiday where children bestow gifts to mothers and grandmothers. While it's nice to receive gifts, how else can you celebrate International Women's Day? Here are a few ideas: Take time for self-care While celebrating the great accomplishments of other women throughout the world, remember to celebrate YOU by taking time to relax and consider YOUR accomplishments. Make a list of your accomplishments, treat yourself to a massage, buy yourself a bouquet of flowers, indulge in your favorite food, or write a thank … [Read more...]

5 Audacious Agreements that Empower

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Unlike written or verbal contracts we make to provide a service or product, sometimes we make agreements with ourselves and other people that we are not even aware we made. And, when our expectations fall short of our desired outcome, we become angry, disillusioned, frustrated and confused. For example, you may live with an unspoken agreement that conflict is to be avoided at all cost by not speaking up when there is a disagreement or difference of opinion. You may soon discover that avoiding conflict never gets anything resolved – just shoved under the proverbial rug. Instead of going with the flow and operating from agreements that limit, define and get in the way of being your true self, here are 5 audacious agreements that empower … [Read more...]