Jellybean Facts

What’s our fascination with jellybeans? Is it because they are colorful, super sweet and readily available for a quick sugar pick me up? Or is there something more to our attraction to jellybeans? Here are some interesting facts about jellybeans for you to ponder: • Jelly Beans were first introduced to the Easter scene in the 1930’s patterned after the popular Mid-eastern confection known as Turkish Delight. This was a popular egg shaped candy in America and sold primarily in glass jars that sat atop counters in stores all over the country. • Jellybeans became linked to the popular Easter Bunny after the Civil war as a forerunner to Easter. Eggs were considered a symbol of new life during the spring season and the two seemed … [Read more...]

Popular Self-CareTip Posts

Have you ever spent hours jumping from one web link to another trying to gather relevant information for a specific topic only to find yourself in a maze of information overload? I have and I know just how time consuming and frustrating that can be. Don’t you sometimes wish you had a handy reference guide put together with several articles about your specific search topic all in one place? Now you do… Periodically I will publish a list of previously posted popular self-care tips and strategies that I've rounded up from various sources on the web to make it easier for you to get self-care tips and more all in one place.   Here's the list: 15 Self-Care Tips for Anyone Who Works Too Much Nichole Liloia on MindBodyGreen Choose … [Read more...]

The Power of Quiet Time

Most of us don’t have quiet time. We're usually too busy to sit quietly for even a minute. We certainly don't believe we deserve a space of our own in which to go within to replenish our energy. In the book, A Room of One’s Own, Virginia Woolf refers to a woman needing a quiet space of her own to write. I doubt if Woolf could have envisioned the hectic lives most women live today. Whether we apply it to writing or other areas of our lives, Woolf’s message is still relevant. We all need some quiet time and a space to reflect and reclaim a sense of well being. Some of us manage to build quiet time into our busy days but others constantly complain about a lack of time. Most often, it’s not time we lack but rather, we regret forfeiting … [Read more...]

What picture are you painting?

What picture are you painting in your mind about yourself? Anytime we paint a picture in our mind that’s not authentic or represent who we really are, it leaves an indelible imprint.  It's an image that we constantly try to emulate, assimilate and redefine based on someone else’s picture. Recently I attended a paint party.  Paint parties are popping up all over the United States.  They are sometimes held in restaurants, bars and private homes.  Wherever they are held, the atmosphere is jovial and there is always plenty to eat and drink.  The whole idea of a paint party is to have fun while a professional artist guides novices (like me) in creating our own unique work of art. Like anything we try that’s new, I was apprehensive and … [Read more...]

7 Warning Signs of Depression

The world was saddened this week by the death of Mr. Robin Williams, an iconic comedian, beloved American legend and accomplished actor. Mr. Williams reportedly suffered from severe depression. He appears to have taken his own life.  Our thoughts and prayers go out to the Williams family. Depression is an insidious mental health disease effecting millions of people every year. Severely depressed individuals are at high risk of suicide. Symptoms of depression can be tough to detect in someone close to you and even harder to detect in yourself. On occasion, most people feel a little sad, anxious or gloomy. These feelings are quite common when they are the result of a significant life change (e.g., loss of job, divorce, illness, work … [Read more...]

How Well Do I Listen?

Most of us have experienced the frustration of having someone not listen to us or felt that same frustration when someone says you're not listening to him or her.   But, before we get all bent out of shape and accuse someone of not listening, we must first ask ourselves the question, "how well do I listen"? You must learn to be a good listener if you want others to listen to you.  That means putting down the smartphone and giving the other person your undivided attention. A smartphone is no substitute for meaningful connection Listening is so much more than hearing the words that are spoken. Listening involves paying full attention to the person speaking, taking note of the tone of voice, gestures, body language and making eye … [Read more...]

Who do you think you are?

Who do you think you are is a refrain that fear whispers in my ear regularly. The only purpose for fear landing on my shoulder, whispering my ear, "who do you think you are" is to stop me dead in my tracks, so I won't take the next step toward realizing a dream or doing something that will bring me joy. You may not even realize fear has you in its clutches until you are gripped with immobility, indecisiveness and self-doubt.  By then you've put aside your dreams, your aspirations and lack the energy to move forward. In other words, you're the passenger not the pilot in your own vehicle. How do you silence "fear talk" when she whispers in your ear,  "who do you think you are"? You silence her the same as you would any other … [Read more...]

Easy Tip to Block Negativity

How can I stop negativity coming at me from other people? is a question I hear a lot.  Most of the time what is really being said is "I'm not negative, other people are"...It's much more comfortable to blame others that it is to take responsibility for our personal thoughts, actions and responses. While you certainly can't control negativity in speech or behavior from other people, keep in mind you are in control of your own thoughts, feelings, behaviors and responses.  When you start to recognize that you control what you think, your behaviors and responses to situations, people and events will shift dramatically. When a negative statement is made in your presence, first, you want to take 2-3 really deep breaths before your respond or … [Read more...]

Light my Fire

Talk about "light my fire"! I recently participated in a riveting 30-day challenge - "Reclaim Your Sass" - with awesome, Jennifer Boykin. I was faced head on with the reality of my fears, self-doubt and indecisiveness in a most gentle, caring authentic way that resonated deep within me. I usually shy away from these kinds of challenges because I get bored, think they are too hokey or require more time and energy than I'm willing to invest but something about this challenge peaked my interest. I had already started the process of probing deeply into my fears and transparency,  which I shared with you in an earlier post.  So Jennifer's challenge resonated with me in a profound way. I completed the 30-day challenge on Sunday and  this … [Read more...]

Woman in the Mirror

The Woman in the Mirror poem appears in several versions.  While each is a little different, I have to give credit to those authors who have claimed ownership, including some “unknown authors”. The poem is also very similar to the message in the late Michael Jackson’s song “Man in the Mirror” where he says: "If you wanna make the world a better place Take a look at yourself and then make the change"   I found this version of the Woman in the Mirror hiding out in my quotes folder and want to share it with you. The Woman In The Mirror: Author Unknown When you get what you want in your struggle for self, And the world makes you Queen for a day. Just go to the mirror and look at yourself, and see what that woman has to … [Read more...]