Bad News is a Bummer

Bad news is a bummer. It matters little if the news is life changing or a disappointing outcome; it can easily be a shock or a setback.

Last week, my day started out as usual until I got a phone call from a relative with some pretty disturbing news that changed my whole outlook.

When things like that happen, do you resort to hand wringing, crying, questioning “why”, what if”, and “if only”?

I must admit, for a short while I was stuck in worry mode. After taking some really deep breaths to get centered, I focused on what I could realistically do about the situation.

This is what I came up with to bounce back from worry:

Be Realistic – Is there anything you can do to realistically change the situation? If you can change the outcome, then by all means do so. If there is nothing you can do, accept that and turn your attention towards what you can accomplish.

Offer Support – If you hear new that someone is gravely ill, offer support, encouragement or do what you can to ease their pain.  That may be all you can do at the moment.

Share Your Concerns – The more you ruminate over a situation, the more space it takes up in your consciousness. Pause the worry button by voicing your concerns to a trusted friend or family member.  Getting your thoughts out of your head and sharing your concerns may give you additional insight.

Refocus – When you receive bad news, refocus your attention.  For example, take a walk; listen to soothing music, exercise or anything you can do to take a reprieve from the distressing situation.

When unexpected setbacks occur, you can easily become overwhelmed, frustrated and worried.  But when you take a few minutes to realistically access what you can or can’t do and place your attention away from the concern, you’re better able to handle setbacks.

Gladys Anderson – Life Coach, Therapist, Author


Certified Life Coach, Family therapist and Group Coaching Specialist, Gladys M. Anderson, helps nurses, teachers, social workers, therapists and other care-giving women to set limits so they have more time, more joy and more energy for self-care. To get tips, start living out loud with more enthusiasm, energy, passion, and self-confidence now, get your FREE copy of Building Strong Boundaries to Create More Breathing Space in Your Hectic Life

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