Woman in the Mirror

The Woman in the Mirror poem appears in several versions.  While each is a little different, I have to give credit to those authors who have claimed ownership, including some “unknown authors”. The poem is also very similar to the message in the late Michael Jackson’s song “Man in the Mirror” where he says: "If you wanna make the world a better place Take a look at yourself and then make the change"   I found this version of the Woman in the Mirror hiding out in my quotes folder and want to share it with you. The Woman In The Mirror: Author Unknown When you get what you want in your struggle for self, And the world makes you Queen for a day. Just go to the mirror and look at yourself, and see what that woman has to … [Read more...]

Fear Bites the Dust [Video]

Fear is a tricky subject for me because there are so many other words that I use to disguise fear. I sometimes substitute the word procrastination for fear or tell myself things like "I'm waiting for the 'right' time, place or circumstance" before I make my move. Not true. Most of the time, when I make excuses for not doing something, It's really that I'm fearful of the outcome. That's the kind of fear that ultimately immobilizes me to the point of getting in my own way and giving up. In my  last post,  I'm Back from My Fear Trip,   I shared with you one of my fears.  For the next few weeks, 'll be sharing more on the subject of fear and transparency. In this short video,  I show you how another fear bites the dust.  Please … [Read more...]

10 Maya Angelou Quotes That Teach and Inspire

No doubt prolific American author, poet, actress and civil rights activist Dr. Maya Angelou was a phenomenal woman – a woman of wisdom, grace, charm and talent. She died May 28 at the age of 86. Her wise counsel will be missed. Among my collection of quotes and poems, my most prized ones are these 10 quotes by Dr. Maya Angelou that have uplifted and inspired me over the years. “If you don't like something, change it. If you can't change it, change your attitude. Don't complain.” 'Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath away.' "You may not control all the events that happen to you, but you can decide not to be reduced by them." "Nothing can dim the light which shines from … [Read more...]

I’m Back From My Fear Trip

I'm Back From My Fear Trip! You're probably wondering what's a "fear trip"? A fear trip is one of those trips that mires you in inertia, keeps you from moving forward and creates an atmosphere of doubt and deception.  It's like being stuck in your own personal time warp and you have the key but can't open the lock. A funny thing about fear – you can go along thinking you’ve conquered it and bam! It rears its ugly head when you least expect it. I thought I was long over the fear of sharing my writing or speaking in a public forum. So, what happened? I won’t bore you with all the details but family, illnesses, “anything that gets-in-the-way-of-writing mishaps” and other related incidents kept me off course for months. In … [Read more...]

Master the Art of Preparation

I was reminded of the concept of preparation recently when my husband, who is a chef, received his association magazine, Mise en Place (a French phrase for "put in place"). In the chef's world, the term means to organize the necessary tools and ingredients for the evening meal. When you master the art of preparation, you are not just focused on the details, outcome and possibilities.  While these things are important, preparation means that you have armed yourself with not only the necessary tools, resources and knowledge to get the job done but you are also prepared mentally and physically. Most of us think of preparation as the steps we take to get ready for an event or undertaking such as preparing for a party. We are usually well … [Read more...]

Lofty Expectations from Imperfect People

Lofty expectations from imperfect people are a recipe for disappointment and unforgiveness. As children we see our parents, grandparents, family members, and teachers as perfect specimens of human virtue. As we grow and mature, we begin to see their faults, mistakes and other shortcomings. And while the world you grew up in may have been filled with imperfect people (some more imperfect than others), you must learn to forgive and move on. More than likely, the people around you were operating out of their past experiences and not in ways to harm you or your self esteem. There comes a point in your life when you realize your parents aren't perfect - Mia Wasikowska As the prolific poet and writer, Dr. Maya Angelou says, … [Read more...]

5 Ways You Can Live the Life You Deserve

You're entitled to live the life you deserve unencumbered by the perceptions others have of you.  "What others think of you is none of your business," says Byron Katie, best selling author of the book, Loving What is. If only we could embrace that truth, our lives would be filled with less drama and confusion. Recently I spoke to someone who had formed a flawed perception of who I really am based on misinformation, opinions of others and experiences that had nothing to do with me. If you’ve ever been on the receiving end that kind of behavior, you know exactly what it’s like. I haven’t always been able or willing to decode others’ perceptions or understand how they feel about themselves is a direct reflection of their interaction … [Read more...]

Show Kindness to Yourself

Show kindness to yourself even when you make a mistake, decision you regret or choices and experiences have you stuck, unmotivated and angry. We all make mistakes. If a friend made a mistake or choice that landed her in a shaky situation, how would you respond to her? More than likely you would be there to support, encourage and uplift her. So, why not extend the same courtesies and show kindness to yourself when you've made a choice that didn't turn out the way you expected? When you are beating yourself up with negative self talk, stop and use the following tips to show kindness to yourself: 1. Show kindness to yourself in the same way you would a friend who might be going through a rough patch. Speak encouraging, … [Read more...]

Mother’s Day is Every Day

Mother's Day is everyday for the brave, loving, supportive, sacrificing and caring women who fill the role of mother. Happy Mother's Day! Mother's day is every day if you are a mother or mother figure. Every day mothers are privileged to receive sloppy kisses, heartfelt hugs, handmade gifts, pampering and an outpouring of love and affection. Sunday, May 12 is the day set aside in the United States to honor, celebrate, pamper and shower mothers with gifts, phone calls and cards of appreciation. Whether you’re being feted with sloppy kisses, treated to a lovingly prepared meal, given a fragrant bouquet of your favorite flowers, you are blessed to witness mother’s day every day.  Every day is Mother’s Day when we stop to celebrate the … [Read more...]

Check Your Judgment Meter

    Check your judgment meter before it's on empty. Good judgment is based on our ability to form an opinion objectively and with some knowledge and insight. However, often our judgments are based on everything except objectivity, knowledge or fact. This was certainly the case with me on a recent trip to the supermarket when I noticed a young woman on her cellphone. That day, my judgment meter was running on empty. One of the things that will drain my judgment meter is seeing someone talking on a cellphone in public places. It seems everywhere I look someone is on a cell phone. And I often judge them to be rude, inconsiderate and uncaring individuals. I have no interest in hearing the details of last night's … [Read more...]