Women have many roles and responsibilities in their lives. You are a mother, daughter, friend, leader, co-worker, wife, partner, volunteer, financial expert, homemaker, caregiver and more – all at the same time. All of these responsibilities and multitasking contributes to feeling overwhelmed. That’s why it is critical for women to take time the time to value themselves and all the things they do. Taking some time every day to value what you do helps you to do a better job in all the other areas of your life. It also makes you feel good about yourself!
There are many different ways you could value yourself. One of the ways to do this is to build your self-confidence. Confidence is the belief you have in your ability to reach your goals. Women who are emotionally well have a strong belief that they are able to succeed.
Here are three ways you can feel more confident:
• Doing what you do best: Place your focus on the things you do well (i.e., knitting, sewing, quilting, etc.) If you can’t identify what you do well, ask your friends, families and colleagues. Once you identify the things you do well, begin to focus more time on those things and congratulate yourself (give yourself a high-five, pat yourself on the back) when you have accomplished something, This will contribute to increased self-confidence.
• Watch what others are doing: Seeing someone like yourself succeed will help you believe that you can do it, too. If there is something you have always wanted to do but you are not sure you can do it, then find another woman who is doing it. Ask her how she does it, ask for tips and suggestions.
• Make use of your emotions: If you have a hard time starting something, use your emotions to help you take action. Recognize that it’s okay to be afraid, nervous or excited about something new. Accept those feelings and use them to help you get going.
Here are some tips to increase your self-confidence:
• Don’t Compare: Your abilities and talents are uniquely yours and special. Everyone has different goals in life and ways of thinking about what accomplishment means. Decide what success means for you. What success means for your neighbor is uniquely theirs to achieve just as your success is uniquely yours.
• Focus on past successes: Think about the times when you have made a difference in someone’s day. Think about the times you made someone smile or helped them get through a difficult situation. Give yourself credit for the good things you do for others every day.
• Learn from your mistakes: We all make mistakes. Mistakes are the soil in which we grow. The best use of your energy and time is to learn from what went wrong without dwelling on it.
Remember, it will take time and hard work to make changes. You will have both successes and setbacks along the way. However, be gentle with yourself and keep working at it, and the improvements will show up over time.
Gladys Anderson, founder of Coach for YOUR Dreams, is a certified life coach, licensed marriage and family therapist, writer and speaker. Gladys combines years of experience, training and a genuine commitment to helping nurses, teachers, therapists and other care giving women to set limits so they have more time, and energy to devote to self-care.