You’re entitled to live the life you deserve unencumbered by the perceptions others have of you. “What others think of you is none of your business,” says Byron Katie, best selling author of the book, Loving What is. If only we could embrace that truth, our lives would be filled with less drama and confusion.
Recently I spoke to someone who had formed a flawed perception of who I really am based on misinformation, opinions of others and experiences that had nothing to do with me.
If you’ve ever been on the receiving end that kind of behavior, you know exactly what it’s like.
I haven’t always been able or willing to decode others’ perceptions or understand how they feel about themselves is a direct reflection of their interaction with me. Fortunately, I’m now at a place in my life where I can receive this kind assessment, process it, possibly engage in honest conversation and move on.
“Your time is limited, don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t be trapped by dogma, which is living the result of other people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of other’s opinion drown your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition, they somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary.” – Steve Jobs
The above quote by Steve Jobs is an important reminder to live life the life you deserve, every day without censorship or based on what someone else thinks about you.
When we avoid or deny our deepest yearnings and allow faulty perceptions formed by other people to derail our deepest desires, we chip away at the core of who we really are.
Here are 5 ways you can live the life you deserve:
1. Create your bucket list. A bucket list is a starting point for you to list all the joyful, exciting, and interesting things you want to experience and achieve in your life. It doesn’t matter if no one wants to share your adventure. I still haven’t found anyone willing to join me on a hot air balloon ride. That’s not going to stop me, though. You may have something a little less daring than a hot air balloon ride on your bucket list but it doesn’t matter as long as it’s something that peaks your interest and YOU want to do it.
2. Look at the glass as half full – not half empty. How you perceive things and a positive attitude goes a long way towards living a fulfilled life. We filter everything and everyone through our perceptions. And our perceptions are formed by our personal experiences, beliefs, interpretations and expectations about others and ourselves.
3. Visualize your future. Imagine what you want your life to be like one year from now, three years from now and five years from now. Put your vision on paper. Develop a plan of action to get you where you want to be.
4. Get out of your comfort zone. If you’re stuck in a predictable routine or comfort zones, stretch yourself to try new things. Take a class, travel, rearrange your surroundings, get rid of clutter, volunteer or mentor a child.
5. Let go. There are two ways I look at letting go. One is getting rid of tangible things that are no longer useful or serve a purpose. And, the other is letting go of the mental clutter like limiting beliefs that prevent you from living the life you deserve and want. Whenever you’re surrounded by clutter – mental or physical – your ability to move forward and make meaningful change is severely limited.
And, to learn even more about how you can live the life you deserve, I invite you to get my latest book, Master the Genie Within: Uncover, Embrace and Celebrate the Real You.