Archives for April 2012

The Living Quilt

I've always been fascinated with the patterns, colors and designs in quilts.  Quilt making is one of the things on my to-do-list and it's inching its way closer to the top of the list.  I've taken the first step already and enrolled in a quilting class starting in a few weeks! The intricate patterns of a skillfully woven quilt depict stories of struggles, joys, celebrations, messages, challenges and endings very similar to the days of our lives.  We weave in and out of connections daily, giving little thought to the impressions we make on others, or how others affect us.  If we take the time to be honest with ourselves, our interactions with others would certainly take us on a different journey. African history tells us of oral … [Read more...]

Silent Agreements You Make With Yourself

An agreement is defined as  coming to a mutual arrangement, the state of being in accord or an arrangement that is accepted by all parties to a transaction. There are many types of agreements that we enter into such as a legal contract, an agreement to provide a service or product or an agreement to give or do a favor for someone and then there are the silent agreements we make with ourselves. Silent agreements rob you of your voice and power and often guide you into making decisions that are counterproductive to your true wishes. Silent agreements are the unspoken rules and beliefs that you internalize about how, why and what things you allow to influence you.  These agreements are not legal or binding.  No one has forced, persuaded … [Read more...]

10 Ways to Improve Your Listening Skills

March was International Listening Awareness Month but every month is a good time to check how well you listen. What with the endless supply of texts messages, abbreviations and acronyms we use to communicate, it's no wonder our listening skills fall short. Listening is the process of receiving, constructing meaning from and responding to spoken and/or nonverbal messages. In the early years of marriage, my husband often accused me of not listening. Of course, I denied, explained and defended my listening skills repeatedly.  Fortunately, I learned that hearing is not the same as fully listening. According to the International Listening Association, only about 50% of what we hear is retained immediately after we hear it and only … [Read more...]