Archives for November 2010

Observing Traditions, Rituals and Habits During the Holidays

Traditions, rituals and habits are a staple of American culture.  And, with the U.S holiday, Thanksgiving this week, this is the perfect time to think about the traditions in your own family circle or start some new ones.  I often counsel blended families to start new traditions when they are at a crossroads as to which set of in-laws they share Thanksgiving dinner with. One family decided to rid themselves of the holiday madness by volunteering to feed the homeless at their local church on Thanksgiving Day. Another family spends the day with their nuclear family and then hosts a large gathering for extended family the day after Thanksgiving. Sometimes traditions evolve slowly over time such as the annual Kwanzaa celebration I've … [Read more...]

Put Multitasking on Hold

Lately, I've been thinking a lot about how I can put multitasking on hold mostly when I'm on a call and another is waiting or I glance at my computer screen and see I am working in several windows simultaneously. Multitasking can easily become a big part of our lives especially now with the busy holiday season fast approaching.  And, all of this multitasking starts to make me feel like I'm on an out of control roller coaster wishing someone would put on the brakes.  Like most women, I find myself occasionally deep in the throes of multitasking and busyness. But, when I can slow down long enough to allow myself some breathing space, I realize that in addition to all the appointments, household chores, social commitments, and other demands … [Read more...]

Do You Make These Deadly Mistakes When Carving Out Time for Self-Care?

I know how difficult it is to carve out space for self-care when you are inundated with the ironing, cooking, cleaning and trying to balance your personal and professional life. It  may seem like all the demands made on you are draining you of precious energy and you're so tired you could sleep for a week,  yet you might not sleep well even if you have time. It's hard to believe,  but we are just a few weeks away from the busy holiday season. The struggle for self-care will be even more evident when we take on the added stress of shopping for gifts, entertaining and trying to fit self-care into our busy schedules. Do you make these deadly mistakes when carving out time for self care? Saying "yes" when you really want to say … [Read more...]

Step Boldly Into Your Magnificence

"Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure." – Marianne Williams You would step boldly into your magnificence if you take to heart the above quote from Marianne Williams book,  A Return to Love: Reflections on the Principles of "A Course in Miracles". Do you minimize your accomplishments or shrink into the woodwork when it’s your time to shine? Are you settling for less than you deserve in your personal life, career or social connections? If your personal life is out of sorts, you’re stuck in an unfulfilling career, relationships and spend more time focused on other people's problems, you are falling short of your magnificence. To step boldly into your magnificence, I offer … [Read more...]

You Are Meant to Illuminate the World with Your Light!

"Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us”, as Marianne Williamson’s writes in her famous book,  A Return to Love: Reflections on the Principles of “A Course in Miracles. Her words continue to inspire and remind me to let my light shine. We all have our own special light to shine into the world. But so often our aspirations get buried under a bushel of doubt, insecurity and fear. You are meant to illuminate the world with your light! It may be that you want to return to school to learn a new skill, change the way you react and respond to the people in your life, or it may be that you want more time and energy for self care.  Whatever vision you have for your … [Read more...]