Archives for April 2010

No More Excuses – Turn Limiting Beliefs into Empowering Thoughts

Do you hold self limiting beliefs about yourself and what you can do, be or have? A limiting belief is a deep seated thought formed by family, culture, society or group.  It's a belief that guides how you live your life, either consciously or subconsciously.  Often, these beliefs  place restrictions on who you can become and what you can achieve. Limiting beliefs can easily morph into a litany of excuses for not moving forward in your life. We all make excuses at some time in our lives…but the reality is whether or not you allow limiting beliefs to transform your life or maintain the status quo. Your  excuse may be that you're waiting for the right time, the right place, right circumstances and your statements are peppered with "I … [Read more...]

3 Tips to Set Strong Boundaries

  Your boundary is the invisible shield you put up to protect the many demands placed on your time, energy, and resources. Visualize your boundary as a shield that protects you from energy drainers, time takers and resource stealers. Protect your boundaries by learning to say NO. Begin setting strong boundaries by using these 3 tips: Practice – Practice saying NO.  You always have the power to say NO to any request just as others have the power to say NO to your requests. When you say NO to a request for money, time, gifts or commitments, you are in essence asserting your power and authenticity.  You get to set your own boundaries. You take charge of your time, energy and resources. If you are in the habit of saying YES … [Read more...]

How To Throw Light On Fears That Keep You In The Dark

Are you feeling like you are scrambling around lost in a dark tunnel without a flashlight to guide you?  Fear can make you feel that way. Don’t beat yourself up. There are a lot of women who experience that same feeling while doing and giving even more to our families, careers, and community responsibilities that we often feel overwhelmed by the sheer volume of things we have on our plates. I’ve felt that way myself from time to time while I was trying to juggle a gazillion hats, taking care of everybody but me and living a life of overwhelm, confusion and anxiety. The same kind of fear you feel when you find yourself in an unfamiliar dark place with no way to see your way out is the kind of fear that a lot of women experience … [Read more...]

Top 3 Things You Can Do To Set Boundaries That Give You Control of Your Life

There is so much in life we have little or no control over. You can't control the weather or the sun rising or setting but the good news is there are many other things that you absolutely CAN control. Here are some of them: 1) Let Go of Expectations Let go of the notion that you can change another person, their actions or non-actions. Your moral compass may not be the same as someone else's. When you let go of the expectations you have of others, you can have more control of your own life. It opens up your mind to focus on your own life and more time to focus on what truly matters to YOU. When you let go of the expectations you have of others, you will no longer allow anyone to yank your chain causing knee-jerk reaction fraught with … [Read more...]