“A mother is someone who dreams great dreams for you, but then she lets you chase the dreams you have for yourself and loves you just the same.” – Author Unknown
The second Sunday in May is the day designated to honor mothers, motherhood and maternal bonds. It’s the one official day where mothers are remembered, celebrated, honored and pampered.
Most of us have been influenced and guided by our Mothers. Their wisdom, encouragement, inspiration and support have shaped us in untold ways.
It’s been said that mothers are the first and most important teachers in a child’s life.
Although my mom is no longer with me, I find comfort in remembering her words of wisdom. So, in honor of all the mothers who teach children values, determination, patience and love, here are a few of the lessons my mother taught me.
- Good things come to those who wait– Although I heard those words often, I still managed to cultivate an attitude of impatience. And, even though I’m still somewhat impatient, I can still hear Mom’s voice saying, “good things come to those who wait” whenever I’m annoyed when things aren’t moving along as quickly as I want.
- Don’t let it get you down – Whether I was bemoaning the disappointment of a lost love or frustrated with the latest challenge at hand – “don’t let it get you down” was a profound lesson in resiliency.
- Where there’s a will, there’s a way – My mom was like a dog with a bone when it came to persistence – she just wouldn’t let go. I learned to always be persistent and figure out a way to get things done.
- “I told you plainly” – Mom was never one to mince words and once she told you something – that was her final response. No matter how many times I begged, pleaded and cried, she just said, “Gladys, I told you plainly you aren’t going”. And that was the end of that! Hmmm…maybe that’s where I learned to say no and mean it!
- Mind who you talk about – You never know how the people around you are related to someone you might be gossiping about. Mom taught me that no good comes from being a gossip, and as an adult I have a reputation as someone who does not gossip, and can keep a confidence.
- Pretty is as pretty does – No matter how well dressed you are on the outside or what outer wrappings you present to the world, your behaviors show who you really are. My mom was all about looking her best at all times but she also lived a life of integrity and was pretty inside and out. I learned early on that clothes don’t define you. You define who you truly are by your actions.
- Put everything in its place – My mother’s lingerie drawer would rival any well organized display shelf in a department store. Whenever I would peek into her chest of drawers, every piece was always neatly folded and in order. Although I’m pretty organized in most other areas of my life – my lingerie drawer — not as much.
- You catch more flies with honey than vinegar – I always thought this made so sense. But, as an adult, I can now see the value in treating everyone with kindness and respect.
- Your word is your bond – Say what you mean and mean what you say. This is a lesson that serves me well. I learned from my mother not to make promises that I couldn’t keep or say things I don’t mean. If you continue to make constant promises and never keep them or say things you don’t really mean, then you won’t be someone people can trust.
- You can do it – A little encouragement goes a long way toward building self-confidence. Whenever I’m struggling to accomplish some task, I hear my mother cheering me on.
What words of wisdom or life lessons have you learned from your mother?
Gladys M. Anderson is a certified life coach, licensed marriage & family therapist, consultant, workshop facilitator and author of the soon to be published book, “Master the Genie Within”. She coaches women in the art of saying no and how to protect their precious time and energy by setting strong boundaries to create a uniquely crystal clear vision for the satisfying careers and relationships they truly want.