Who do you think you are?

Authentic Quote - Dr. Brene Brown

Who do you think you are is a refrain that fear whispers in my ear regularly. The only purpose for fear landing on my shoulder, whispering my ear, "who do you think you are" is to stop me dead in my tracks, so I won't take the next step toward realizing a dream or doing something that will bring me joy. You may not even realize fear has you in its clutches until you are gripped with immobility, indecisiveness and self-doubt.  By then you've put aside your dreams, your aspirations and lack the energy to move forward. In other words, you're the passenger not the pilot in your own vehicle. How do you silence "fear talk" when she whispers in your ear,  "who do you think you are"? You silence her the same as you would any other … [Read more...]

Easy Tip to Block Negativity

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How can I stop negativity coming at me from other people? I hear this question a lot and most of the time what is really being said is  "I'm not negative, other people are"... It's more comfortable to blame someone else than it is to take responsibility for our thoughts, actions and responses. While you certainly can't control negativity in speech or behavior from other people, keep in mind you are in control of your own thoughts, feelings, behaviors and responses.  When you start to recognize that you control what you think, your behaviors and responses to situations, people and events will shift dramatically. When a negative statement is made in your presence, first, you want to take 2-3 really deep breaths before your respond or … [Read more...]

Light my Fire

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Talk about "light my fire"! I recently participated in a riveting 30-day challenge - "Reclaim Your Sass" - with awesome, Jennifer Boykin. I was faced head on with the reality of my fears, self-doubt and indecisiveness in a most gentle, caring authentic way that resonated deep within me. I usually shy away from these kinds of challenges because I get bored, think they are too hokey or require more time and energy than I'm willing to invest but something about this challenge peaked my interest. I had already started the process of probing deeply into my fears and transparency,  which I shared with you in an earlier post.  So Jennifer's challenge resonated with me in a profound way. I completed the 30-day challenge on Sunday and  this … [Read more...]

Woman in the Mirror

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The Woman in the Mirror poem appears in several versions.  While each is a little different, I have to give credit to those authors who have claimed ownership, including some “unknown authors”. The poem is also very similar to the message in the late Michael Jackson’s song “Man in the Mirror” where he says: "If you wanna make the world a better place Take a look at yourself and then make the change"   I found this version of the Woman in the Mirror hiding out in my quotes folder and want to share it with you. The Woman In The Mirror: Author Unknown When you get what you want in your struggle for self, And the world makes you Queen for a day. Just go to the mirror and look at yourself, and see what that woman has to … [Read more...]

Fear Bites the Dust [Video]

Fear is a tricky subject for me because there are so many other words that I use to disguise fear. I sometimes substitute the word procrastination for fear or tell myself things like "I'm waiting for the 'right' time, place or circumstance" before I make my move. Not true. Most of the time, when I make excuses for not doing something, It's really that I'm fearful of the outcome. That's the kind of fear that ultimately immobilizes me to the point of getting in my own way and giving up. In my  last post,  I'm Back from My Fear Trip,   I shared with you one of my fears.  For the next few weeks, 'll be sharing more on the subject of fear and transparency. In this short video,  I show you how another fear bites the dust.  Please … [Read more...]

10 Maya Angelou Quotes That Teach and Inspire

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No doubt prolific American author, poet, actress and civil rights activist Dr. Maya Angelou was a phenomenal woman – a woman of wisdom, grace, charm and talent. She died May 28 at the age of 86. Her wise counsel will be missed. Among my collection of quotes and poems, my most prized ones are these 10 quotes by Dr. Maya Angelou that have uplifted and inspired me over the years. “If you don't like something, change it. If you can't change it, change your attitude. Don't complain.” 'Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath away.' "You may not control all the events that happen to you, but you can decide not to be reduced by them." "Nothing can dim the light which shines from … [Read more...]

I’m Back From My Fear Trip

I'm Back From My Fear Trip! You're probably wondering what's a "fear trip"? A fear trip is one of those trips that mires you in inertia, keeps you from moving forward and creates an atmosphere of doubt and deception.  It's like being stuck in your own personal time warp and you have the key but can't open the lock. A funny thing about fear – you can go along thinking you’ve conquered it and bam! It rears its ugly head when you least expect it. I thought I was long over the fear of sharing my writing or speaking in a public forum. So, what happened? I won’t bore you with all the details but family, illnesses, “anything that gets-in-the-way-of-writing mishaps” and other related incidents kept me off course for months. In … [Read more...]

Master the Art of Preparation

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I was reminded of the concept of preparation recently when my husband, who is a chef, received his association magazine, Mise en Place (a French phrase for "put in place"). In the chef's world, the term means to organize the necessary tools and ingredients for the evening meal. When you master the art of preparation, you are not just focused on the details, outcome and possibilities.  While these things are important, preparation means that you have armed yourself with not only the necessary tools, resources and knowledge to get the job done but you are also prepared mentally and physically. Most of us think of preparation as the steps we take to get ready for an event or undertaking such as preparing for a party. We are usually well … [Read more...]

Lofty Expectations from Imperfect People

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Lofty expectations from imperfect people are a recipe for disappointment and unforgiveness. As children we see our parents, grandparents, family members, and teachers as perfect specimens of human virtue. As we grow and mature, we begin to see their faults, mistakes and other shortcomings. And while the world you grew up in may have been filled with imperfect people (some more imperfect than others), you must learn to forgive and move on. More than likely, the people around you were operating out of their past experiences and not in ways to harm you or your self esteem. There comes a point in your life when you realize your parents aren't perfect - Mia Wasikowska As the prolific poet and writer, Dr. Maya Angelou says, … [Read more...]

5 Ways You Can Live the Life You Deserve

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You're entitled to live the life you deserve unencumbered by the perceptions others have of you.  "What others think of you is none of your business," says Byron Katie, best selling author of the book, Loving What is. If only we could embrace that truth, our lives would be filled with less drama and confusion. Recently I spoke to someone who had formed a flawed perception of who I really am based on misinformation, opinions of others and experiences that had nothing to do with me. If you’ve ever been on the receiving end that kind of behavior, you know exactly what it’s like. I haven’t always been able or willing to decode others’ perceptions or understand how they feel about themselves is a direct reflection of their interaction … [Read more...]